So I feel like lvm tend to keep some woman on the side. They may say they are “friends”. I was recently talking to someone about how every lvm and most men I’ve dated have done this. They say they are just someone in their lives and friends and I’ve had it where one actually admitted to still loving him. It’s definitely not normal for men to keep woman on the side “just in case”. It’s interesting to see how men try to justify it. They bring that new baggage into relationships. How do you feel about dating a man that says he has a lot of friends that are woman?
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If a man ever says he gets along better with women than men that means his personality is so unbearable that even other men won't tolerate him.
Think about that.. men who will defend their rapist friends, defend their friends in 20yr age gap relationships, turn a blind eye to their cheating friends, have collectively decided this guy is so damn annoying they can't tolerate him lol
That's what I've noticed about the guys who only have lots of female friends. When you start bringing this person up with other men who also know him they just really can't stand him.
They also need tons of validation, use their harem of women for emotional support, are going to be texting and hanging out with other girls all the time, have like no healthy relationships with other men, just not worth a second glance imo. And ya they'll try to defend it saying friends are just friends and men and women can be friends no problem, but they would happily turn these so called platonic relationships sexual at any given moment.
A man who has a lot of female "friends" is definitely a red flag..he's either keeping them on rotation, just in case...or He's a homosexual.
I wouldn't date him, ever. I made this mistake once when I was younger. If I had been warned by an older wiser women, I definitely wouldn't have wasted years of my life. These types rarely settle down, only when they're turning old bald or have some major health scare and want a mommy to look after them into senile years. Like others have said, there's a list of women for a reason. The rare HVM doesn't need a list, he knows how to protect and maintain a healthy relationship. I don't think HVW need such a long list of men in her phone. If a guy needs this much emotional support from many women, 1 why isn't he mature enough to just ask his sister/ cousin / mother and 2 if he's that emotionally unstable, he will never have a healthy relationship with anyone, unless he goes to therapy, and those types are too selfish and egocentric to do the right thing.
Level of closeness is key. There are 'friends' who are more like a network but there are those who are close. And again if you have weird vibe then that's your answer.
I don't trust men with too many female friends unless he has a certain personality, a hobby or profession where it makes sense. Men that keep "friendly" with multiple exes for no reason are for the streets.