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These types of posts are circulating again (a picture of generic bath and body walmart giftsets of the pic doesn't show up that reads the women of your life do not want these sets as a gift)
Personally I think these are a very low effort and generic, one size fits all gift. They tend to be cheap, usually have questionable or low quality ingredients, and are usually very quick and easy to purchase even at the last minute. I think a lot of people think these are generic gifts that will please anyone.
Other low effort gifts include: a mug, socks, nail polish giftsets from Walmart types of places, a tin of cheap popcorn or cheap candies, a small giftcard like $10 for coffee or fast food, just a candle or lotion, generic cubic zirconia jewlery from the $20 table at the department stores, or a lingerie /sexy outfit thats really a gift for him! Just a greeting card.
In a relationship - These are cheap and low effort gifts unless it's something you specifically asked for or they're like a stocking stuffer in addition to a thoughtful more meaningful gift.
You deserve a meaningful and special gift that actually requires effort and him paying attention to the specific types of things that you enjoy.
The cheap and easy gifts are something that kids can buy for classmates and more distant relatives or that you can hand out for secret Santa's. They're stocking stuffers or that extra gift you keep on hand if you have an unexpected guest show up.
Pickmes will screech "but I love bath and body works!" And "that's stuff that I use!" And "it's the thought that counts" or "be grateful you got a gift! The holidays aren't supposed to be about gifts anyways!" .... but you deserve EFFORT from a man.
Almost all of us as women know all the little details about our partners. We remember things. I have a small business and so many women come in as customers every year, stressed out fussing over finding a thoughtful and perfect gift that her man will enjoy. She will spend a lot on him, really be thinking about what he specifically likes, run around to several stores, and then pick out a sweet card and fuss over wrapping it perfectly. ....is he putting in the same type of effort? My point is a lot of women will go over the top to make a man feel loved and special when scrotes don't care or even try.
You deserve to be given a gift that actually shows you that you're worth the extra mile and shows you he is really thinking about making you genuinely feel cherished and surprised. Be happy if a kid or someone you don't see too often gives you a generic gift but not when when the man you're investing in, giving your time and effort, and being vulnerable (and even sleeping with) can't be bothered to find something better than the $10 wall at walmart...
What do you think?
This is the MIL gift shelf gift for her son‘s forever girlfriend. Ask me how I know…
It's a fuck you. My grandma used to get it for my mom (her DIL) every year. She knew exactly what she was doing. Every year my mom complained to my dad and he would defend his mommy.
I’ve taken my neighbor’s dog out a few times & she asked me what kind of beer I like and her husband picked me out 4 thoughtful beers. One was called Exploding Kittens (I have cats) another was dog themed (just got a puppy). It was the most thoughtful thing a man had given me in awhile. Men ARE capable of thoughtful gifts.
this is also funny because I convinced my fiancé to give me one of my (many) Christmas gifts early. it was a beautiful hand made (non sexy or revealing) outfit from my favourite place made with my favorite material and I could NOT have picked better myself. he knows me so well. My other ex would just buy me very expensive designer things not really to my taste.
Wholeheartedly agree. I'm not sure what the equivalent would be here in the UK, but I'm thinking maybe Soap and Glory? (more informed fellow Brits, please feel free to correct me if I'm wrong!) while these MIGHT actually be cute gifts for/from an acquaintance or a distant relative as you say, context is everything and I'd be absolutely insulted if I received this from a man I'd invested in. Although saying that, it is a good vetting opportunity! If he considered this to be acceptable gift-giving we'd obviously not be a match....so there is that aspect.
Also, yeah - lingerie or anything lingerie-adjacent is an INSTANT block and delete, do not pass go, do not collect £200. Fucking tacky, ICK ICK ICK.
Damn can’t even go to the Lush store to get the products?
Unless they're from Sephora. Once a dude gave me a set like that from the DOLLAR STORE. Never again
Also I’d never buy this for any kids or distant relatives or Secret Santa’s. I’d try to get them something of quality. I’d only get this if I hate someone.
I do better than that when getting gifts for my aunts and uncles, and I’m a student.
Before we got divorced, my husband had been treating me like crap for years, so for my birthday he bought me a cheap $100 necklace. I threw it at him and told him that's all you think I'm worth? All of the shit and abuse you've pulled for 4 YEARS, and I'm just supposed to forget and forgive because you bought me a cheap necklace? I got a really nice diamond necklace for Christmas after that. I've always been a "It's the thought that counts" kind of girl, but men only took advantage of my kindness and thought even less about me and gave less effort.
Seems like something I would gift an acquaintance, someone I don't know well and m not close to but need to keep a decent relation with. Like a work colleague or extended family member that I see once in a blue moon.
I would never give cosmetics, soaps or something like it to a person I don't know well (and by that I mean well enough to pinpoint the exact product they want. Like gifting your mom her favorite perfume).
Doesn't matter if the gift set was cheap or expensive. It's generic and low effort at best and has sooo many additional risks:
- A lot of people are allergic against certain ingredients or really hate certain smells. For them, your "gift" is a useless health hazard.
- Different skin and hair types need different care. The odds that the random set you picked actually contains products that work well for that person's hair or skin are really low. So you've given them some nice-smelling items they can never use because they make their hair look terrible.
- Some people will be offended if you gift them soaps or cosmetics and take it as a personal slight: "You are giving me soap? Are you saying I'm unhygienic?"
It took a long time for me to find a skin- and haircare regimen that works for me and I am also allergic to a very common ingredient in cosmetics. There is no way I am taking my chances with products from a cheap, random gift set. Last time I looked the song was not "All I want for Christmas is a terrible rash from your cheap body lotion and a UTI from your bath bomb"
I remember years ago I took time to pick out a bunch of comic book stuff my ex scrotey narcissist husband was into and he criticized every gift I gave him. He made fun of gifts I specifically went out of my way to get him. All the presents were based on comic characters and the board games I knew for a fact he liked. I was so traumatized by that experience that the next few years we were together he only got a gift card and one of these generic smell good sets or a scarf from me. I should've kicked him to the curb after the first experience but you live and learn. Rather than be passive aggressive I told him flat out he will only be getting gift cards and like one thing from me going forward. I think that boundary pissed him off. I hate holiday gift shopping. It's too stressful. Plus do any of us ever get what we really want? When I get one of these gift sets I know it's low effort but I also don't care anymore. Especially if it's from someone I'd give one of these to...😆 We need to kick consumerism holidays to the curb anyway. They only produce waste and emotional distress.