Long Distance Relationships- Expectations? How often do you see each other?

Most FDS ladies will say a LDR is not worth it because it gives him too much leeway to cheat, be emotionally distant, disrupt your life with travel, etc. But if you must… First, you need to have a clear mutually agreed-upon plan about when, where, and how you will be reunited and live in the same place. You can’t live indefinitely away from your partner. Second, he should take on the lion’s share of the costs and hassles of traveling to visit you. You do not regularly pay your own money or take your own vacation days just to travel to see a man. Third, you must always feel secure, fulfilled, and content. If the LDR brings out any doubt, insecurity, loneliness, mistrust, exhaustion, etc, then seriously reevaluate the relationship. It is likely better to break up and find suitors who are more convenient and available for you. Lastly, and this is true for anyone but especially LDR, if he is not in touch with you at least a little bit every day, then he doesn’t care enough about you! You should be on his mind daily and he should want to stay connected and express his love and care for you!

I would honestly only consider it if we were already an established, happy couple and the long distance thing was for a planned, fixed timeframe and a really good reason that will ultimately benefit you (e.g. one of you will be a visiting professor in another country for 6 months and that will be a great career boost). In that case I would already establish a few fixed visiting dates in advance (like holidays, birthdays and other events you should spend together that you know about in advance) and a plan for regular visits in addition to that depending on the distance and how easy getting back and forth is (a transatlantic flight is obviously different from a 4 hour train ride). As to being in touch: Texting, calling or video chatting should be a daily occurence. Texting "good morning", random texts during the day if something noteworthy happens and a call/videochat at night would sound normal to me.

I would never, ever start something as a long distance relationship. That's just no reasonable setup to get to know each other and spend time together.

Just don't. I've had a couple. It's just lonely dudes using you, but then I was lonely as well and that's why I gave in. Don't do it.

I believe the stance on here is don’t do it!

but is it temporary? Are you already in a committed relationship?

becuase I think if you’re in a committed relationship (one that started before becoming long distance) and I think it should only be done temporarily. Then you should be fine but make sure he is regularly contacting you and he should be spending the money on travel

How are you getting to know him if you are in a long distance relationship??? Personally it’s not something I will entertain. He needs to move to my town or somewhere nearby if he wants to see me 🙄