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Men have it far easier than women in life in general. I'm also tired of the lie that women are allowed to be emotional. We're constantly made fun of and ridiculed for having feelings, lmao. Meanwhile male aggression is often justified by apologists.
What is a good rebuttal though to men who jump to the statement that men complete suicide more often than women?
Any how. I feel like FDS and r/fourthwavewomen are the only safe spaces I can say what I think on the matter. If I ever shared this on Instagram, I know some folks would jump at my throat for "stigmatizing male mental health" even though I just want to make a point that female mental health is also severely neglected. And we are affected by the patriarchy.
Why do men always want to remind women that they cry too? When in reality its men punkng on each other for showing emotion.
When pickmes and men say "no one cares about mens mental health" they should more accurately state that "MEN do not care about mens mental health", rather than using "everyone" or "people". I'm really confused by this anyway, do they not know how taking ownership of your life looks like? I am very convinced that they think that the process simply involves declaring oneself a victim (the biggest victim, in fact!) and everyone else comes in rushing to solve your problems for you and make your life easier. That's not how it works, you have to do the work yourself; women have figured this out decades ago, why can't men?
A lot of female therapists are such pick mes 🤢… I love my therapist. She is a queen and recommended a lot of the FDS books 📚
If men cared, or should I say started to care, women MIGHT show SOME compassion BUT men NEVER show us compassion. From emotional physical abuse to coercing her to a relationship type he wants instead of what she communicated to stringing her along knowingly. Life is something that cannot be returned, every second minute month year decade that's robbed from a woman, never gets compassion nor compensation in any other form. So why should we care when they don't care, why should women give chances when they don't. As for those men who are trying to improve the situation, I'm not giving them a medal for being a basic human being. Men are built to protect. They should start doing their job, CONSISTENTLY. Women shouldn't have to worry about doing all the work all. the. bloody. time! I'd say to any man that invalidates my mental health over his: Shaming me for talking about my mental health or belittling the experiences I've had is emotional abuse. Trauma is not a besting contest. If you don't see me as an equal ali to give equal support in return for same, you're an abuser keeping the circle of abuse going. Aka: you're an asswipe, get out of my life.
The amount of fucks about male mental health for me is in the negatives, at this point. Like seriously, the next time some idiot tries to shame me for not talking about men's mental health or the national holiday, I'll just ask, "What does that got to do with me?"
That question is popular among men to ask whenever they wanna hurt women, so I'll borrow it to swing back. I don't fucking care anymore.
Women actually try to commit suicide more than men do, but they use less lethal means, so it doesn’t work that well. I‘be contemplated suicide many times over the past 20 years due to severe neck, skull, back, and pelvic pain caused by a parachute accident in the Army. In fact, I was looking for a way out only 3 months ago. But I couldn’t think of any way not to leave a horrific corpse for my family to find. I imagine my poor mother or sister finding me with my brains blown out all over the room, and I couldn’t do that to them. Or to find me hanging from the rafters with piss and poop all over the ground beneath me. Men don’t think of others, so that’s why they find it easy to use these lethal means. They don’t care about whomever might find their body. If they had assisted suicide here in America, I’d have done that this past summer the pain has been so bad this year. The men I know who committed suicide—one was a total dick at West Point when we were cadets. His father was the SGT Major of the Delta Forces at the time, and he thought he was hot shit. Well, he was sexually harassing a female Naval officer whilst deployed to Iraq as an Infantry Commander, and she had evidence in the form of emails. So he shot himself when she turned him in. His wife was 8 months pregnant with their 2nd child at the time, and she waited to give birth before buruing him. The 2nd guy was my Russian friend‘s husband who hung himself in their garage so that when she got home from work, she and their toddler daughter saw his lifeless body hanging from the rafters. He was angry that his paintings weren’t selling, didn’t want to get a job, and was jealous of her, because she’s a lawyer for the IMF. So he offed himself and left her alone to raise their child. The men made their problems in life, and were just plain selfish. I don’t know how selfishness is a flex that should make us feel sorry for men.
The truth is that when men do go to therapy —it makes them better manipulators and abusers, not better people. The longer they are in therapy, the more dangerous they become. They will use any diagnoses to get out of work, household chores, scheduled appointments & events (“can’t work I have ptsd“, “can’t clean I’m too depressed“, “can’t be a decent person because I have BPD”).
They will use the terminology they learn against you (he’ll accuse you of “gaslighting” him when you accuse him of cheating or stealing money). They’ll try to paint you as mentally ill every time you disagree with them or catch onto their bullshit. Some will even try to hospitalize you in the psych ward if you have a breakdown over their abuse. In summation, a therapized man is equipped to brutally destroy you and ruin your life.
why are female therapists posting about this? let the male ones take charge for once instead of sitting back and watch women do the labor yet again.
The worst part is when men struggle with mental health they usually use it as an excuse to abuse women or take advantage of their kindness and show know remorse for doing so.
Where are the male therapists posting these things? Men need to support men's mental health more. It's always the women...
I don't agree with the sentiment that women are allowed to show emotions. Any moment my stoic wall ever broke after months of receiving mistreatment I was immediately mislabeled as bpd or irrational. Women have to display unnatural reactions to mistreatment of staying completely calm in order for this to not happen. Men on the other hand were never labeled in a negative way no matter how much anger they showed.
Men can feel all of these things, but not typically because they are a man. Meanwhile women often feel these emotions under misogynistic circumstances that society forces on us so it is directly related to our sex. It’s kinda like how I think white people can live a hard life, but it’s not because they are white. While minorities frequently face hardship directly caused by our race.