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The next time you go on dates with a man, observe him and consider:
If you both got mugged on the streets, what will he do? Will he try his best to shield you from harm - or run away and leave you alone?
If his friends start harassing you and joking about assaulting you, what will he do? Will he stand up for you and immediately cut ties with them - or just keep quiet and later blaming you for being "too sensitive, they are just joking!"
If a gangster-looking stranger start catcalling or worse, slap your ass while you are at the gas station with him, what will he do? Will he brave the danger and give a warning to the stranger - or just pretend not to know you in that moment?
If you feet get stuck at the escalator, bleeding everywhere and probably lost your toe, what will he do? Will he jump into action trying to stop the bleeding while calming you down and ask someone to call 911 - or will he just freeze there like a dumbass until some other good samaritan jumps in and saves you?
If you say you have the night shift and will be walking back alone at 4 am, while he has an early morning work, what will he do? Will he chug the redbull and wait until your shift is done to send you home - or say "Well take care" and that's that?
I believe when it comes to your standards in men, there are a few crucial standards that just have to be there, otherwise you have no use for a man. And one of them is PROTECTIVE INSTINCT. Because that's the most basic role of men in society - to protect. Protect their community, protect their country, protect their land, protect their family unit - protect you.
When he sees you in pain, what will he do? Will he get concerned and immediately try to make that pain goes away because he just can't bear to see you in pain? Or will he get annoyed and says you are just being "overdramatic"?
Or when you do those haunted-house dates - does he have the instict to act like a shield for you and leading the way - or are you the one in front dragging his stupid ass, or worse got left behind in the chaos? (Because I've experienced and saw too many men just straight up push the women and run away on his own. It is fine to be afraid, but damn imagine how they will be in actual danger)
I worked in retail and can't believe just how many heavily pregnant women carrying all the heavy groceries (and paying), while their so-called "husband" is outside, fiddling their stupid thumbs and being annoyed with their "slow" wives.
And so, so many teenage couples where the guys' friends are making fun of the girlfriend in front of her face, and the boyfriend just laughs along. Because bros before hoes right? Then get heartbroken till the next f**king century when the girlfriend had enough and call it quits.
Yes, perhaps he is a great conversationalist, understand you in ways your exes never did, don't cheat on you, is gorgeous and have lots of money etc2 - but being a coward means you can never, ever trust him. Because the instant he feels threatened, he will immediately gives up anything he can to ensure his own safety and comfort - and most of the times, that means you.
If you can't first and foremost TRUST him with your safety - you really can't trust him at all. And no relationship can survive without trust. Stay safe, ladies.
I remembered all those useless bitch ass males who run away and leave their women behind in those prank videos, and what's worse are the scrotes in the comments who laugh it out and say "he ain't a simp" 🤡🤡🤡 Men are becoming more and more useless and abusive...they only have one job (protect & provide) and they won't even do that. As for the "bros over hoes" scrotes..they might as well fuck their bros and leave us alone...
A few years ago a criminal case made headlines in my region:
A young couple had gone camping and while they were sleeping in their tent, some crazy guy with a knife attacked them.
Do you know what the man did? He fucking ran, leaving his girlfriend alone with the knife-wielding crazy guy who raped her for several hours while our cowardly hero got lost running away. He was hiding completely unharmed when they found him. His girlfriend survived with terrible injuries. But guess who was painting himself as the victim in all local media? The shitbag telling everyone under tears how terribly traumatized he is now. He wasn't even with his girlfriend during her recovery and the one who broke up with her because he "couldn't face being reminded of what happened every day".
The reactions and empathy he got were even scarier. "You can't expect him to risk his life fighting a crazy guy!" "He wouldn't have had a chance anyway, better run!" "It's was a split-second decision out of instinct, you can't blame the poor guy for that!"
Bullshit. His instinct should be to protect his loved ones. Can you imagine a mother leaving her child alone and running to save herself in a situation like that?
You see it everywhere in world, every day. When it comes to actually risking something to protect even the women in their own family and their rights, men will be absolutely useless. Look at Afghanistan: Millions of men looked away to protect their own asses while their mothers, wives, sisters and daughters lost the rights the had just achieved again and went back to a life as basically slaves.
We cannot trust or rely on men to save us. They won't. And a few HV ones won't be enough to make a dent into the masses of cowards.
This!!!!!!!!! Great post!!!!!! Funny enough, this is actually the standard of mine that upsets other people the absolute most. I quite literally cannot get wet for a cowardly man and I have no problem saying so. Strength and protective instinct is what separates the men from the boys. But when I voice this opinion, I’m almost always accused of being a die-hard conservative (I’m not) or “supporting toxic masculinity” and it drives me insane. Just because I’m attracted to men with masculine traits doesn’t mean that I have a narrow view of what men and women should be - it just means that I’m sexually selective and I’m allowed to be! You can respect other people’s gender expressions without fucking them.
So, last year some strange man began ringing my doorbell at 3am DEMANDING to be let in, claiming that *I* texted him and told him to come here. I think he was catfished to my house. He would not leave, even after I told him he had the wrong house and I slammed the window shut. Just starts ringing like a mad man. I was home with my children and it scared us. My ex-husband lives up the street and around the corner. My man lives an hour away. I call my ex. I wanted him to come over and be with us until this dude went away but he simply told me to call the police. No care or concern that someone could get inside where HIS CHILDREN live. He told me later that he was concerned for his safety walking over and walking up on this dude. HUH? I was so disappointed. He’s a bit of a wet noodle, but I never thought he’d leave us to our own devices like that. So yeah, the protective instinct is a must. My current partner, a HVM, doesn’t even want me walking on the outside of the street, he holds every door for me every time, Carrie’s my groceries (and pushes the cart!). He would never leave me to fend off a stranger at my door. After this, he moved within 10 mins of me so he could be close if I ever needed him.
Violent men LOVE cowardly men. No man is stupider or more malleable than a man trying to prove he isn't a coward- and if they try to prove they aren't it's ALWAYS because they are. Violent men and cowardly men disproportionately direct their violence towards women and children bc they are likely to have more success against weaker targets. Once men get involved who bother to step tf up and protect suddenly you get a testosterone showdown where *suddenly* those violent fucks from before might get hurt or face consequences for being violent. THIS IS WHY MEN ARE THE BEST TEACHERS/ENFORCERS/CORRECTORES OF OTHER MEN'S VIOLENCE bc only a corresponding testosterone check will put a violent male in his place and keep him there
there is a dude here replying to all the comments with the same comment “you hate us but want us to protect you”
can mods please take a look? I’ve reported the comments and the account as spam
I would like to be married and start a family but I haven't found a decent man who I can trust with me risking my life to bear our children for. Most men in my generation seem to be hopelessly addicted to corn and video games and are generally pretty lazy just going to work and then putting their feet up as soon as they're home. The men I've met expect 50/50 everything even when I make a less money and am also expected to provide my body and risk my life for childbearing. It's never gonna be 50/50 just given our biological roll as females. We may literally have to give up our life to provide children. Every relationship I've had I ended up paying half the rent while doing 100% of the cooking/cleaning and grocery shopping. At the very least a roommate will at least pay for their own food and cleaning supplies. The men I've dated haven't even been capable of that. I need to be able to trust that he could be there to provide for me and our kids while I'm potentially bedridden from the risks of pregnancy. I'm fit and overall healthy, but you just never know. I may be required to be on bed rest for months or have a traumatic birth experience and need time for healing. I have to be absolutely sure my husband would be capable of helping and protecting me through that. And protecting and providing for our kids. I haven't met a man who has shown me he is capable of that. Until I feel safe, I'm staying single and guarding my womb.
The funniest was when my brother, a complete wuss, was whining in about how this man on the metro was bothering people and how he felt pressured as a "fit, young male" to say or do something. But get this, while bro dithered, an army man told the harasser to sit down, and the creep did. And brother was all relieved he didn't have to feel pressured anymore. It was the dumbest thing I'd ever heard at that point.
Oh god i wish i had seen this post 7 years earlier but anw i broke up w my LVM. When we were rollerblading and i fell, some asshole guy behind me told me not to block the road LVM just stood there silently while i shouted “U HAVE NO EMPATHY!!” When his parents/brother insulted me infront of me or behind me, he never once stood up for me. Lol..😪😪
Very good post.
I love this post so much. It is head on! I remember some years ago, I was “hooking up” with this guy prior to FDS. There was also an age gap. 🤢 I was a birth doula at the time and had to leave his apartment because I was on call for a client. I woke up early and rushed home to shower and prepare. I ended up being at the hospital for over 17 hours that day while my client was in labor. This meant I was on my feet for 17 hours straight because it comes with the territory of being a doula and supporting mothers during birth. The guy I was seeing reached out to me that evening and asked how things were going. I stated how exhausted I was and how bad my feet hurt and how hungry I was. This man didn’t offer me an Uber home or to buy or bring me food. I was disgusted. I cut him off immediately. It was at that moment that I realized the importance of having someone who cares about you and goes the extra mile to make sure you are GREAT not just good.
Its so insane to me how many men I have seen that dont care to protect their loved ones. Like, they are literally the people you cherish! We arent even talking about protecting strangers in danger (even there we have seen how women get involved to help). As a young woman who has the weakest arms in my friend group, if my parents told me someone was standing by their door trying to harm them I would rush over there in a second. Even if the chance for my survival was slim to none, i could not live with myself knowing I ran away.
Something my female firearm instructor told me was just because you have a man with you does not mean he's going to protect you. He may very well run away.
Cowardly men, it all boils down to this doesn’t it! When my NVMX abandoned my dog and I at Christmas i later found his hotel bill to where he fucked off to and GUESS WHAT THE ADDRESS WAS? COWARD STREET. God i died laughing at that. Thanks for the big ups universe! Hahahahahha