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Hi ladies,
I won't spend too much time or wax poetics about this topic. Instead, let's get straight to it: Four years ago, my dad left my mom. They didn't have a great marriage, and both of them were responsible for the dysfunction in the house. That being said, my dad's problematic behavior was this: he was a terrible communicator and could be quite emotionally cold and misogynistic.
He left my mom in May. By July 4th, he had a new girlfriend. Not even TWO FULL MONTHS, he was on to the next.
I'm not saying this to villianize or villify my own father. I'm writing this as a REMINDER to us at FDS to remain ruthless in our strategizing. While you shouldn't do anything unethical or immoral, you SHOULD prioritize yourself and ask yourself what will benefit YOU. You could spend 20+ years married to a man; give up your own career; move to a whole new town and community, leaving the town your famiy has lived in for YEARS, for HIS career; sacrifice your desires because money is tight because he's working on building his business; put up with his terrible communication skills and cold attitude... only to be left and replaced in two months.
MEN WILL NOT WAIT, SO YOU DON'T WAIT EITHER.
99% of men see women as interchangeable appliances.
Either they monkey branch to the next or wait a whole long 8 weeks before scooping up their next victim. It's disheartening but serves as a vivid reminder to never give up anything in your life for a man because he'd never do the same for you.
I have a relative who lost his wife to cancer. He stuck by her until the day she died. But, barely six months after losing his wife of 30+ years, he left the country, his family, his (grown adult) kids to move in with a woman 20 years his junior.
He now has dementia, and that girlfriend of his has, most likely, become his nurse and purse.
Men know how to take care of number one.
Sis I hear and feel you. I could have written this post down to every last detail. My dad also left in May (not this year but still). And yeah he cheated and left. Was too cowardly to fix or leave the dysfunctional marriage he was partly responsible for until he had another household to run away to. My mom had opportunities to leave him many times and many people have wondered why she didn't. She said she believed in the vows she made.
Welp. Obviously dad didn't. Why should you?
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I swear I have been learning and unlearning a lot of things!!
I believe in being with a good person and sharing you live with.
But one thing I am 1000% sure is to always prioritize your own well being, your mental, emotional and physical health, your finances, and be as loyal as the other party is not more.
The only person you can be 100% loyal to is yourself