So I had a guy I like ask me for a date last Saturday for today Tuesday. We went out to lunch Saturday. We never had a time confirmed for today Tuesday tho. He called me Saturday night but it was just kind of a short rushed surface level call nothing big. Then crickets until today. Personally I'd prefer a time confirmationthe day before. Now this isn't something I told him. So I already kind of wrote it off last night to myself when I didn't hear from him. He just texted me just now saying he wants to pick me up at 5pm. Am I wrong for not wanting to go now? Personally iI don't like last minute plans and don't want to set the precedent that its ok early on. I know some are ok with a morning confirmation the day of it just feels off to me. How would you ladies respond??
top of page
.png)
Advertisement
Advertisement
Advertisement
bottom of page
They need to confirm the day before. They know this. If he doesn't confirm the day before, either A: He's inconsiderate and disrespectful of your time, B: You're not his priority. If you were important, he would make damn sure to confirm, C: He's a dumbass who doesn't know how to date women. These are the only possible reasons and none of them are an excuse. If there is no confirmation the day before, there is no date.
If you go he will think you are not worth much and your time is to be disrespected. Day and time or no date. You ain't waiting to see if he could find something else to do.
If he was a gentleman the date would have been fleshed out on Saturday evening when he called you. I’d just say you made other plans then block and delete. Don’t waste time on dudes who don’t value your time. He’s shown you who he is, believe him.
If he was crazy about you (which the right man will be) he would 100% confirm the day before and you would not be doubting this at all.
Yess! My time IS valuable
Its not your personal preference. EVERYONE wants to know as early as possible the details of an event. Of course you dont want to wait until the morning of the date to find out what time it is. How are you supposed to plan your day and be ready and available for lunch if you dont know what time lunch is?
You shouldnt have to tell him that you wanted the details at least a day ahead of the date, and THEN a confirmation of those details the morning of.
Tell him you arent available anymore because you didnt know what the plan was. If he corrects his behavior swiftly and without any instruction from you, then give his another chance if you want. Or dont if you dont want.
you are not that special to him for the one he truly thinks was special he sure damn well confirm
If any other does this to you, say that the time doesn’t work for you. If he gives you another time, either ignore him or reject him.