Just relax and let HIM worry about the date.

It is not your job to worry, plan, or even think about the date and how to make it successful.

It is not your job to worry about your preferences and limitations, and how to work around it.

It is not your job to worry about his feeling because you have allergy to some food or can't be comfortable with certain date setting.

It is not your job to worry about expense and whether you should pay 50/50 because "the place is expensive".

It is not your job to worry about the time and place, and asking him confirmation. He should be the one continuously updating you and reaffirming the date a day before.

It is not your job to worry about the logistics of the date.

The man should play the active role in planning and managing the date, not you.

Your job is to relax, let him do all the work and observe him.

Determine whether or not his actions, attitude, and words is to your liking.

See yourself as being the judge - do you see judges running around trying to make the competition work? No, they are there to judge.

Your job is to go into that date with clear eyes and a critical mind, and allow your intuition to take the captain's seat. Do not try to logic your way out of any off feeling, even when it seems unfounded.

Your job is to make sure your route in and out of the date is safe, the place where the date is set is safe, there's always people around and you can lose him in the crowd if shit hits the fan.

And for the love of God DO NOT go anywhere alone with him - be it his house, your house, a dark parking lot, a suspiciously deserted park - anywhere. He remains a stranger until he put a ring on your finger sis.

Feeling the chemistry and falling in love aren't excuse to ignore your own safety.

Stay relaxed and enjoy the date in a safe setting, reject any suggestion to get you alone with him (and if he does hint at that, it is time to run).

Ladies, an effective vetting process cannot be done when you are stressed - "what does he think about me? How is my hair? Do I look good in this outfit or is it too much?"

Any slither of stress and it is an open invitation for him to manipulate you if he is an LVM.

You job is to walk into that date fully comfortable in your own skin, fully confident in your standards and boundaries, and is ready to walk away the instant you see anything or feel anything off.

You job is to be impressed by him and decide if you want to give him further chances.

Also I am on the side that drinking alcohol on dates is a bad idea. It just loosen you up in ways that sober you wouldn't be - at the bare minimum you may let small signals slide because you are feeling good.

And often alcohol creates that fake chemistry feeling and your are far more susceptible to the brain love/lust fog - vetting requires a thoroughly clear head so that you can recognize your intuition signals.

So yeah, I recommend zero alcohol date policy.

Ladies, your job on that date is to come, observe and determine whether his efforts is worth a second date.

Your job is to make sure you are safe in and out of that date. Listen very closely to your intuition and be ready to get up and walk away the instant something is off.

Your job is to relax and enjoy yourself, and let him worry about making that date a success.

"But what if I am the one asking him out?"

Read the handbook. And read it again, and again, and again. And understand why we don't do that here. Men chase, women choose. End of story.

Relax and stay safe ladies.