Judgement for not building with a man. Shame, shame, the internet shames you.

Women don't need to justify their standards, and the comments are obviously gargabe. But I'll say I wouldn't see being in college at 25 as a red flag without knowing more about the circumstances. It's hardly "building" a man when all he's doing is... Getting an education.

Completely forget about the college aspect of his reply.

He suggested a first date in 'some club'. 🙄

HARD pass

Everybody’s willing to give this man the benefit of the doubt, talking about how there are “a plethora of reasons he might still be in school at 25”. Yes, and there are just an many reasons why a woman wouldn’t want to date a man who is still in school. Where are the people supporting her decision?

"Some club"?

Yeah, that's an immediate block and delete. I would not have deigned to inquire about his education or engage him further.

That's her standard and she shouldn't be shamed for it. The comments are ridiculous, "her loss", excuse me? You don't know this guy, how is her loss?

I graduated uni last year at age 23 and now I have a new standard: I don't date men who are still in uni or who didn't even go to uni in the first place. I don't have to justify this standard, and no woman should either. It's fine to want an educated partner, especially if you yourself have a degree. Yes, eduaction has no age and being 25 and still in college is not something bad per se, but you have to find what's compatible with you instead of talking yourself into accepting less than what you actually want. My dad finished law school in his 40's and I couldn't be happier for him. My mom supported him throughout the whole process and fortunately, it paid off. But that doesn't mean that a woman who has a standard for education has to lower it and I know damn well I woulndn't support a man while he's getting his degree, especially now that I have mine. Yeah yeah, circumstances are different for everyone but the bottom line is still the same: a woman who has a standard for education is incompatible with a man who doesn't have the level of education she desires in a partner.

I'm 47 and still working on my Bachelor's. I have two associates degrees however. But I recently, as of 2 weeks ago, reapplied to university to hopefully finish my Bachelor's by my 50th bday. IMO a person in college hasn't given up on themselves. A 25 yr old in college, to me, in totally normal. He's a male who hasn't given up on building himself. Whether or not a female wants to stand by his side while he is building himself is another matter. A stronger red flag is if a male doesn't have and has zero goals about ever wanting to have an education, and just wants to sit around doing nothing.

25 is still young to be even in bachelor's programs.

I dated two men who got a second bachelor’s degree when they were older. The first was in undergrad his mid-20s, and the second in his early 30s! Both of them were not just LVM, but they had a stunted path in life, were unable to provide financial support, and just so deeply immature in bizarre ways that it took me months/years to understand.

While it may not be an instant dealbreaker for a man older than 22 to be an undergrad student, it certainly could be, and it is worse the older he gets. It is always at least a strong warning sign that he has failed or been unable to navigate the normal progression and pressures of life.

25 in college is normal. But doesnt mean for him it wouldnt be a red flag.

According to the OP of this post, this woman unmatched with him afterwards.

All the men and pickmes in the thread don't understand why a woman wouldn't want to date a 25 year old man still in school. They think women should have no standards and just settle for any man who will have them.

Lets break down the comments!

She is clearly a goIddigger, worrying about him not being able to take care of her.

The ultimate insult. NOOOOOOO, the woman is supposed to say. I will totally spend all my money, time, emotional labour on a man who is not stable, and will probably leave me for a younger woman when he makes it big! You know that women are giving like that.

I lost my scholarship in 2008, so I withdrew for the spring (2009) semester. I didn't return again until 2014. But I managed to graduate a few years ago.So many reasons people drop out and return when they're adults.

I went to college straight after school and failed the fuck out of it just parting. I didn't finish until I was 25Repeated a year then dropped out for like a year and worked

I was in my early 30-s when l finished.

Don't these guys sound like real winners? Don't you feel like supporting them while they hop in and out of college? Men with commitment issues, so hot. They can't commit to education, but they can totally commit to a relationship!

Or, as in my man's case, primary caregiver for twin babies while attending college during COVID, when all the classes were remote and none of the college's tutoring resources were available. Plus going back to school 20+ years after getting his GED. He graduated today at age 47, and l (and the student loan program!) couldn't be prouder. Her loss.

First Pickme! She stayed with her man though his hard time and so should other women! She really thinks it's a loss that you don't have a hard luck case partner like hers. I know that I for one would be soooo stoked to help look after two children that weren't mine with someone in their 40s.

She may be into her career and not want someone that’s not in theirs yet. That’s completely fair.

Someone attempts to have sense in this thread. Not too many people agree with this post.

The real red flag here is her reaction. OP is Iucky to have dodged some bullets.

Nah, I think that woman has avoided an immature man who posted a simple rejection to get validation from the internet.

Education has no age. People really need to re frame the way they think about accomplishments. There's a pIethora of reasons someone might still be in school at a later age. MilitaryHad kidsMajor life changesHealth issuesNo moneyEarning a higher degreeUncertain about what they want to studyThe list truly goes on.

And those sound like wonderful qualities to be a husband. This is bachelor's sarcasm, by the way.

Not sure why everyone is attacking the girl. Some people wanna date those who are already settled into their careers as opposed to students who have yet to enter that stage in their lives. Nothing wrong with this. Just two people wanting different things

Second rational response.

In conclusion, fuck being in the first wives club.

Wait which are responses and which aren't? Your post is confusing sorry