Interracial relationships?

I have dated interracially my entire life. Here are a few things I’ve noticed over the years:

-Men of all races can fetishize any women of any background for literally anything. The thing to keep is mind is to evaluate men on an INDIVIDUAL basis across the board.

-If he disparages women of his own race, RUN. DO NOT WALK. DO NOT PAST GO OR COLLECT 200.

This especially goes for men of color. Put simply, if he could disparage women that looks like his mom, sister, any female relative etc., he, at some point, will turn that ire toward you.

If he’s not good enough for women of his own race, chances are, he’s not good enough for you.

Besides who wants a guy that only wants to be with you because he can’t get anyone else? NEXT!

-Find the best man for the job for you REGARDLESS of race

This is the most important thing. Men have no issue going to whoever they think is best and most beneficial to them, regardless of background. Women should be able to do the same.

As always, standard FDS rules apply. Men are still men, regardless of background. Dust does not discriminate.

Hope this helps!

I'm an Indian woman and dated a Hispanic American man. The issue wasn't the cultural differences, because it only made me feel more open to learning about other cultures, but his absolute LV traits, like being a momma's boy, his pornsickness, his weird obsession with dick size, and I could go on and on. I wasn't fetishized though, thankfully, 'cause some people think we're "exotic". This brings me to my point, that it's no harm dipping your feet into interracial dating, those men may or may not fetishize you, but when you do, keep vetting, because I do believe some men of a specific culture are prone to having more LV traits than other cultures. But yeah, 90% of men are LV, despite race or culture. So, vet properly and good luck to you!

Men are men. They are just seasoned differently.

There are unique dynamics to overcome in interracial dating but a dusty is as a dusty does.

I don’t want to project onto you but here is my rationale (I’m half black and half white and I grew up primarily in continental USA).

1. He must be able to and enjoy providing. This will weed out at least 90% of men you meet.

2. I must be sexually attracted to him. See how quickly the pool is diminishing.🤣

3. He must court/date me. I don’t ask men their intentions- I just see what environments and experiences they create with me. This also weeds out men that want to sow their oats before settling with someone their social milieu will approve of. 💡The more a man invests in you- yes, financially- the more serious he is likely to be about you long term. Even if you break up, you will at least have jewelry, gifts, memories from trips he paid for…

I’m open to dating any man that fulfills these standards and doesn’t expect me to convert. Men like this are rare.🤷🏽‍♀️ But the alternative is to live in a constant cycle of depression/anxiety because I never want sex with my partner or he is a Bare Minimum Bob.

My NOT advice is that you set your standards and see what men that you are attracted to fulfill them. For example, if he must be a vegetarian- your pool from Indian men is statistically likely to be larger.

Do NOT lower your standards out of guilt or because you think you should be “open minded”. Contrary to popular advice, it’s harmful for you to attempt to feel attraction to XYZ height/ethnicity/race. Although women are encouraged/groomed to compromise physical attraction, be like a man and be unashamed about having a type.

So my story is from last year when i was really struggling with myself without realising or accepting that I was struggling. (Combine massive pickmeism and hyperproductivity) I (Indian) was approached by a south american junior colleague. With time it was evident that he was just playing and wanted a side piece that is gaga over him with no efforts from his side. When i confronted him about this (because I was 🤡) he used my interest in him to convert my religion to christianity because that was the only way to be with him. His dad's a pastor apparently. This year, I also came to know he already had a GF who lives in a different country. I am a strong atheist, however sometimes I lean towards agnosticism. Even before and after that, I was/am always approached by men of other races who want to convert me to christianity. They think they are hot enough to make me want to do that JuSt tO Be wItH ThEm. And I can be saved or something. I have nothing but respect for people who follow their religion with clean heart, while also being secure in my own beliefs.

I'm white passing and when I was dating if I was dating outside my race I'd ask about past girlfriends. If a non white guy ONLY ever dated white women I saw that as a red flag and would end things. But that's because they would say things along the lines of "I would only marry a white girl" or be disrespectful towards women of their own race while praising me for having the same features of women of their own race while being white. But for me it was less about them fetishizing me and more about their attitude and disrespect towards other women.

LVM exist in all races, but that's not reason to exclude them as much as our own. I've (white woman) been hit on/dated Asian guys while I studied abroad in their country, and so far, they've not been the best. Granted, I was also out with the girls going clubbing and OLD, so take that as you will 😂

I've nothing against Asian men, and still don't, because it's of no use to stereotype an entire race. It'd make more sense to be wary of particular nationalities or cultures if anything.

Some questions to ask regarding other backgrounds:

• Is he/his family fluent in English/my language?

• Can I speak their language, fluently or not?

• Is he willing to learn my language, am I willing to learn his?

• Does his culture support or hinder women?

• What is his culture's work-life balance?

• How do families in his culture typically behave? EX: Do MILs rule the home?

• What are societal expectations for marriages in his culture?

• How does his culture view mine?

I wouldn't factor race if you're interested in interracial relationships. Vet a man like you would any other white guy, their ethnic background isn't a plus or minus. Vet the person, the culture, and the behavior.

I'm Indian and I've dated a few white people. The major differences I've noticed, which ultimately made me prefer other Indian people are: 1) White people drink way, way, way more. I think most white people are lowkey alcoholics who just don't seem to acknowledge it. 2) They're very non-confrontational and tend to sweep things under the rug (which I think partly drives their propensity to drink IMO excessively). The upshot is you get in way less arguments, but the downside is things tend to explode down the line or they end up developing these insanely maladaptive coping mechanisms. 3) They take relationship commitment way less seriously (hence their comparatively high divorce rate). Obviously masks can slip at any point in a relationship, but I think I'd rather just be super selective and then committed when I do find someone HV. I find white people tend to very readily enter into relationships and just as readily get out of them.

4) They're pretty impulsive when it comes to financial decisions.

Vietnamese woman here who have dated white or white mixed men. The absolute worst! They have fetishized me, been ignorant as hell to the discrimination I face or even perpetuate it too. They are among the most selfish, bigoted and emotionally unavailable so never again.

I avoid white men like the plague now but am open to dating non white men and don’t care about having preferences

3/4s of my relationships have been interracial!

I grew up in a low-middle class income area that was actually minority white so it's kind of just how things were... When you enter interracial relationships (platonic OR romantic) it feels like you learn more about yourself and your culture because you're learning how to engage with someone who may have completely different life experiences, even if you grew up in the exact same area.

While dating same-race might be easier, I don't think I would have grown as much as a person if I didn't have so many chances to date and befriend people of varying backgrounds. It's certainly more difficult at times though. There are potentially things that either side will never understand about the other, much like men and women fundamentally.

As others have pointed out, men will fetishize women of EVERY race. But as a white woman I can personally speak to how men of other races will sometimes treat us, and it can be... uncomfortable? In ways different from white men fetishizing WOC.

Dating a white woman can be seen as a bit of a status symbol for a lot of them. I haven't quite learned how to navigate this because it's kind of understandable (societal prejudice, racism, propping up whiteness as the "ideal") but still feels gross/squicky to think about.......?

The guy I'm dating isn't white and I made it a point to ask him how his family would feel about him dating/marrying/having kids with a white woman, as he had only dated same-race same-ethnicity before.

I think this is an important conversation to have early on with interracial relationships, as you don't want to end up dumped years down the line so he can marry someone mommy and daddy would prefer.

That being said, like the other ladies commenting say, the most important part is that he's compatible with YOU! Vet the same you would with any other man. 💖

I'm white and have been asked out by men of many races. Honestly, it's just been a fetish thing for them. They don't see me as a human being. I'm just the tall blonde with blue eyes to them. And I've also been called "stupid white bitch" and other nice racist shit by men who claimed to love me. I'm not against interracial dating if it's just 2 people who happened to fall in love, but stay far away if the man rags on his own race or if he seems to really only want you because you're of another race. Many of these men are not good to their own women and look at other races of women as easier to control, easier to fool, and easier to destroy. They know they will get a pass from women who aren't in their culture...at least for awhile. One of the worst guys was an Indian man who proceeded to tell me all about how he hated Indian women on our date, and then this Indian woman actually came up to him and started yelling at him for being on a date with me. I felt sorry for her for "defending" him when she didn't know the kind of shit he'd been talking to me about Indian women. I obviously never went out with him again and thought he was a total jerk for hating his own sisters and mother. Women need to stick together. Men will use us against each other to try to make us compete for them, and race is one way they'll do it. They'll say they prefer a race that isn't their own, and that's a huge red flag. If he doesn't love the women who brought him into this world and took care of him, he won't love you either. You're just an object to him.

Indian woman here and I can tell you that Indian and South Asian men will do anyone and everyone over SA women because majority of them hate us for their own cruel misogynistic reasons. If you’re dating a man of color and he disparages women in their own community, he’s an asshole and you shouldn’t date someone like that. I’m not dating right now and if my partner ends up a different background and he says something similar of what SA men have said to me, I’m blocking him so fast. There’s a sense of solidarity I have with other women especially other woc so that is top of my list.

I'm not white. My long-term ex partner was white. I didn't feel like he had been fetishising my race, although he definitely favoured food from my background. We didn't have too many differences in terms of views on major aspects of life since we were both atheist/agnostic, mostly liberal to moderate politically, came from a similar socioeconomic background and grew up and lived in the same multicultural country. It was fun getting to know each others family stories and culture and I got on very well with his parents. He never met mine as I didn't want him to.

We broke up for very non-ethnicity-related reasons.

This was just my experience. I know some ethnicities in particular are fetishised a lot and it is disgusting to watch my friends having to deal with this.

I'd say stick with men who were raised in your country so you don't have stuff lost in translation during vetting

I have dated interracially. As a white woman, my personal experience is that nonwhite men raised in the US are better equipped to understand and empathize with women facing sex discrimination and misogyny than white men are, since they have faced racial discrimination firsthand. White men tend to be agonizingly clueless and idiotic about discrimination, since they have never experienced it in any form. However, on the flip side, I am a member of another minority group, and a past ex’s nonwhite family in another country hated me based on my identity. So there are other areas to vet if you are looking for a husband whose family will support your relationship and accept you. I have never dated a man raised outside of the US, which can cause many other complicated cultural differences and even misogynistic values that I will leave to other ladies to discuss.