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I 'm someone who's body is considered unattractive. I am only 5'1 and that shuts my body's beauty down to a 3/10 tops. So you can imagine how hard it is for me to attract men who want LTR.
Which is why this year i decided to decenter men from my life for good. And I am doing it by excelling at the very one thing men think they can provide us : $$money$$
My aim is to get the highest title of software engineering before the age of 35.
I'm not saying I'll be as happy as the 10/10 supermodel who gets spoiled millions of $ every day by her HVM husband. I would still trade everything I have to be in that supermodel, but objectively, my life will be significantly better when i become a rich baller, than back when i was earning modest income.
I would say it's half a confidence thing. Once you start making achievements in your career and investments it gives you something to feel good about.
This is where you stop putting men on a pedestal and DGAF why some dude doesn't want to date you.
My advice to young FDS ladies, get in to a high paying profession. Stop obsessing over your dating life and start obsessing about making money and investing. Money has a way bigger effect on your quality of life over the long run than how you "look good" to the male gender.
This is also very incel-y rating women's bodies by numbers of out ten... I'm not sure that's what FDS is all about
Over ALL else? A HVW focusses on her wealth but it’s for self care (treating HERSELF), self preservation and achieving greater goals. Buy yourself a house and make it your sanctuary, build your emergency fund, pay off your student debt, go on a solo trip around the world, invest in a hobby and/or career, donate to charities, spoil your family/friends, make the world a better place, etc. The purpose of earning money and being “money smart” is for yourself, your family, the world, etc (rather than thinking “will this money attract a man”🤡).
Scrotes get the wrong idea about accumulating wealth, they think bigger wealth entitles them to women (they’ll climb the corporate ladder, spend $$$ on gold watches, cars and bigger muscles just so they can peacock around women and abuse them). Don’t fall into the female version of this trap, and it’s a PICKME mindset! Money isn’t the end goal, that’s an empty and selfish capitalist ideal. Grow your wealth for yourself and for bigger goals in life (NOT men).
wtf. what self respecting woman rates herself through a male rating system "out of ten"?
anyway, imo, being shorter (and you're not THAT short?), actually opens you up to a larger pool, because, if you're like most women, your prefer your man a bit taller. sometimes, shorter men can be a bit higher value, because they have to work harder to get the attention of, and prove their value to, women, who generally prefer taller men. (that's if they don't go further down victim and incel territory, of course).
Yes, being financially independent allows you to be free and have options, so that you are not dependent on a man; but, until you unhook yourself from the male gaze, and whatever that disturbing /10 ranking/rating system was, you could have all the money in the world and still be centering men. chasing money as a reaction to men? guess what, you're still centering men.
I disagree with some of the points in your post, but I am 100% on board with this:
“Stop obsessing over your dating life and start obsessing about making money and investing. Money has a way bigger effect on your quality of life over the long run than how you ‘look good’ to the male gender.”
In order to protect ourselves from men, we need money—lots of it. A woman with money, regardless of her other traits, has more power in our patriarchy than a woman with no money.
Money money money. That’s what women should be focusing on. How to earn it, invest it, and extract it from men.
At the end of the day, it’s better to be rich and alone than married to a brokey.
Are you a troll? Men are very stupid about women's height, and they tend to hear 5'1" and think "shortest woman ever." Women know that 5'1" is only 3 inches shorter than the average American woman. 5'1" is a really common height for women.
I'm a lot shorter than that and I never felt like it knocked my attractiveness down to a 3/10. It's hard to find clothes that make me look like an adult, but thats it. Come to think of it, ive never once pondered where my looks would fall on a 1-10 scale, because that's the kind of dumbass bullshit that only men do.
None of us want men who are going to treat us like super model trophy wives anyway. And we all know that even if we have a relationship with a high-earning HVM, we still NEED to have our own wealth and earning potential.
There are a few more "tells" in this post indicating moid, but I'll leave it there for now.
Kylie Minogue is 5'0", and that hasn't limited her to being a maximum 3/10 for her body?
I disagree with you. Fixating on money does not decenter men from your life. Patriarchy and capitalism are closely intertwined. Women are exploited by men everyday for money. FDS is about maximum female benefit. You have to be prepared to choose walking away over pandering to a man for money. I’m not saying don’t be calculating and find another job first, but no amount of money is worth pandering to men for.
Please, for the love of women, don't rate yourself.
OP, fuck these haters, get all the money and become fabulously wealthy and secure!
Of all the things that could make a woman unattractive you’re listing your height? You being 5’1” doesn’t “shut your body’s beauty down” plus you’re not even that short??? Also I think everyone, even conventionally beautiful women, would benefit from decentering men.