If he starts talking about his exes, let him.

So you're doing a predate or maybe you've been on a few dates in and then all of a sudden he starts talking about his exes or something else that you consider a red flag or deal breaker. Maybe you're mid way through that call or you're only halfway through dinner. I suggest that as long as you don't feel like you're in danger, then act normal and unbothered and let him talk. If he asks if it bothers you or tests you by joking that he shouldn't talk about it, assure him it's cool and that you want to listen. The key is to genuinely act like it doesn't bother you.

This is a good way to learn about his red flags and chances are you'll learn a lot the more he talks about his red flags - lessons that you'll often apply to other potential men.

You also don't want to let these scrotes get any idea that they are doing anything "wrong" - so it'll be easier for the next woman to see the red flags and leave. If it is possible for you to safely finish the call or date then do.

Most woman sadly are pickmes who have that ride or die mindset. They would do anything just to "keep a man" even to the point of dead bedrooms and abuse. So if you're hearing him say his ex just "randomly" left him, or oddly broke off the engagement, or was so picky/needy etc remember most women are pickmes who accept so much shit - so imagine that it must have been one hell of a straw that broke the camels back and got her to leave.

Some of my former dates ended up just suddenly telling me about their exes. One said she "randomly" just started ignoring him and shit him out, and he couldn't understand why. What really happened was that she was a pickme who was always cOmMuNiCaTiNg with him and doing all the legwork and always paying half and she was stressed and worn out. So when he made a mess in the kitchen and bathroom and left it for him, she didn't say anything and was finally done.

Another one was having an okay date with me and then suddenly pointed to a prom dress in a window and started mentioning his ex and calling her a whore... I simply pretended I couldn't hear him and said what and looked a Little confused, and suddenly he started telling me all about how she was so easy and how prom just exists for men to get laid. The incels will always show their true colors.

Some men end up being nervous on that first date and end up making a joke and doing a little shit test to try to get you to talk about your exes. They'll say they haven't been on a date in so long or give you a fake compliment like "it just feels so natural with you, it's not awkward like with other women". Or they'll jokingly ask what your worst date ever was or they'll tell you a weird or funny story from a previous date of theirs. Their goal though is to make you feel like "you're not like other girls" and get a feel for if you have a scrotation and what your dating history was like. Scrotes are seeking pickmes and will be using any info given to them as ammo to try to neg you and trick you into settling for them. Let him tell his story about his bad date, even ask questions, act interested. Don't say anything about yours. If he asks what your bad date story was, just act confused and say you haven't had a bad date. If he pushes just say thetes nothing to really bad to say, there just wasn't always that spark or that you wanted different goals and that was it. (don't go into details ever about your dating history and always act like you were treated well and act like things went amicably and maturely).

I also advise you to keep your ears open around male coworkers and when going out. Especially when they're with their bros. I've been "one of the bros" before and my God I learned a lot. Don't correct them or tell them off, just listen and don't give them any clues as to where they messed up when they're talking about their personal lives.