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He wants to pay for dates, call you, buy gifts for you, check on you, pay for your bills, supports you, listen to you, arrange everything for you, give you surprise presents, care for you when you are sick, cooks for you, arrange for nanny and maids, prepare for your financial security in case he is gone etc. etc.
So that you are comfortable, happy, healthy, content, safe, and thoroughly taken care of. He wants to -- because he loves you.
It is never about control, about power struggle, about him being "superior" in anyway, about using them so that you "have" to pay with your body -- any of those disgusting excuses used by disgusting men.
He wants to -- because he loves you. He is happy when you are happy -- so he naturally wants to keep doing things that makes you happy.
And you should be comfortable, happy, healthy, content, safe, and thoroughly taken care of by him that you feel enough, you don't feel like asking for anything anymore -- but he manages to keep surprising and impressing you and make you feel even happier.
And as the family grows and you have children -- he will be the same to them and he manages to impress you even more because now you see him in action not only as a husband, but as a father. And you couldn't ask for a better father than them for your children.
And you are happy. And he is happy because you are happy. And your children are happy because their parents is happy. That's how you create a happy family.
If the man you are currently dealing with can't give you that -- cut him off. STOP ENTERTAINING TRASH. Stop wasting your time. Stop hurting your feelings and crying into the pillow for a dude who can't even text properly. VALUE YOUR TIME AND YOUR STANDARDS.
BECOME EXCLUSIVE AND LIMITED-EDITION. Only allow the best of the best, the cream of the crop, the genuine HVM who thoroughly and undoubtedly proven himself to keep your attention.
"But why do you think he does this and--" WHO TF CARES, TRASH. You can either keep pondering, wondering, analyzing, logicalizing, asking why a shitty man is acting shitty -- or you can keep busy levelling up and leave the trash where it belong -- in the damn trashcan.
Your choice.
Stay safe.
If a man is not adding value, benefit or upgrading the quality of your life, then drop the scrote...what's the point of being married or being in an exclusive relationship with some clown if he's not making your life easier and more comfortable with less responsibilities? What's the point of having a man if he's not emotionally & financially supportive? Women now can make their own money, we don't need to desperately co depend on men and thus be forced to take their shit and abuse like we did in the old days...so what can a man give me beside his low value abundant D?
Can I add a different perspective? I'm one of those driven career women that few men out-earn. I have the nice house/car/etc/etc. I have *zero* desire to be financially provided for. But he surprises me with my favorite meals when I'm tired and hungry. Cleans and details my car when it's dirty. Rubs whatever is hurting without automatically making it sexual. Loves and supports me the way I want to be loved and makes my life better than it was without him. Bottom line is that a high value man will love you and support the life YOU want, whether you want to stay at home and raise kids, or come home from work to a great meal and a bubble bath.
This. If you truly love someone seeing them happy and content should be all the reward you need for doing something for them. We see and understand that outside of relationships every day:
- seeing your kid's eyes light up when you give them a gift or take them on a nice trip
- watching how happy your pet is with the new toy you bought them or the new enclosure you built them
- cooking for your friends/family and seeing them enjoy the meal
We don't expect physical or other payback for our "investment" then. Seeing someone you care about happy is all the payback we had in mind when we did the thing for them. Why should it be different in a relationship?
Your posts are always on point and remind me never to settle for less 👏👏
This. A man is there to enhance and enrich my life and bring me joy, or he is not there at all. I don't do struggle love, I'm not anyone's sale bin girlfriend, and my life is already great without a man in it. If he wants access to me, he needs to go above and beyond what I already do for myself. I know what I am and what I offer. No allowances made for a man, just to have a man. Being lovingly selfish is the best thing a woman will ever do for herself, and it will improve her life vastly. No more time or resources wasted on an undeserving man.
Where do we find these types of men?!?! Seriously! I can’t even get a guy to call me or text me consistently. Never mind pay for a date or give me gifts 🤣🥺
I love your posts so much @SayNad I’m adding this to my notes app as a reminder it’s either a man adding value, ease and happiness to my life or I remain in my thriving single life! Thanks again 🥰🥰
This is exactly what I have. I wasn’t even looking (which may be the secret?). We are almost two years in. I keep asking myself what’s wrong with the fkr 😛but so far so good lol
Friendly reminder not all of us want kids. There are a few of us that are child free and probably looking for a loyal and loving partner to enjoy the rest of our lives with. Overall I agree, great post. Thank you.
@SayNad I love you and all your posts!!!!
Gah. Accidentally reported instead of copying! Sorry! I should go to bed now 😭