"I paid half on dates so that he can't use that excuse to coerce me into sex" -- Here's the problem with that.

You go on that date with that MONEY in your purse -- thinking that if anything goes wrong, that MONEY will save you.

So you go, you sit, you found out he is a piece of shit that expect your body in exchange for him paying the dinner. And you sigh, "Oh well at least I have this MONEY to keep me safe".

Expect that because you have that MONEY in your purse, you keep staying there, enduring his bullshit. You keep sitting there, forcing the food down with the water because looking at him makes you nauseous. You keep sitting there, drowning in uncomfortableness and dread, waiting for the date to end. You keep staying there, for an hour, two, waiting for the bills to come -- so that you can finally use that MONEY to secure your safe exit.

Did you notice what's wrong here? -- you keep STAYING there. Because you rely on that MONEY to secure your safety. It is a modern day problem, this chronic reliance on MONEY thinking that it will solve ALL our problems -- even safety.

But you keep staying there, sitting on that chair. Waiting for the moment until you can use that MONEY to "pay" for your safety.

Here's the thing though -- MONEY is a tool. A passive tool. A tool that will only be as good as the person using it. It can't do shit on its own, just pieces of paper.

The DANGER is still sitting in front of you, spewing bullshit after bullshit and gleefully formulating what else he can say and do to lower your guard. He sees that you are still sitting there, so he goes from one tactic to the next. He knows you are bored and waiting for it to end -- but for now, you are still SITTING there ain't you? So he still got time. At the very least, he can tire you out and stress you enough that you get clumsy on the way out. And he still can do something then.

Haven't you heard? It is as easy as a prick of a needle nowadays -- the waiter, the bartender, the guard could be in on it too. DANGER is everywhere -- and you keep staying there, giving them time to get to you.

That's why your FIRST instinct is to RUN at the very second, THE VERY SECOND you sense something is off. Stand up and walk away, bathroom and ghost, cry and fake and emergency -- anything, but the thing that will ensure your safety isn't the money in your purse -- but ACTIONS. Fast, instant, immediate ACTIONS.

Run, run, RUN!

Give him a whiplash so bad that he will just dumbly sitting there, blinking at the chair you just vacated a second ago. Make him stun, hell make everybody around you stun -- and get used to be the cause of that amazing reaction. And eventually, let it be your signature move, that you don't even hesitate anymore.

At any point on the date he shows that he is a piece of shit, you don't even react. You simply stand up, walk away, and LEAVE.

And you will realize that MONEY can't always keep you safe -- but YOU can.

Stay safe.