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I make 4 times more money than my husband earns. He later admitted he was jealous of me

https://www.businessinsider.com/husband-jealous-made-more-money-breadwinner-relationship-2024-2

Typical story of a man being jealous that his wife makes more money than him. This is why women shouldn't date men who make less than them and have less than them. What do we hear men say in the beginning? That they don't care if their partner makes more than them in theory, but when faced with reality it does matter. If I'm going to date a man, he better make more money than me. He doesn't have to be a millionaire, but financially responsible and stable.

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Millennialpink2k

Feb 11

This describes most millennial relationships: woman earns more and does more around the house and man silently seethes and doesn't lift a finger all while resenting and hating her but unable to live without the benefits she provides

MoveBeyond

Feb 12

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And yet the men still never reach the logical conclusion that patriarchy is illogical….

Tisay.hapa

Feb 11

If you're a successful person it goes beyond intimate partners. The toxic jealousy affects everyone especially if you're a successful woman, even other women will seethe heavily at that, they will not be happy for you or proud. The person who can provide that best is you and I think that's where true self assurance impulses are built from.

This is why you don't tell them everything. Most my business not even my family knows about because they will be your biggest haters. This was a hard lesson for me because in movies I saw that characters were supported by people closest to them but in reality that only works for families without generations of trauma. Even certain 'friends' will not be pleased if you do well and will act like a jealous scrote about it sadly.

I think it stems from them having mental health issues and traumas that they themselves have neglected completely. As a result when confronted with your success they are reminded of their problems instead of having the cognitive resources to be happy for someone they love. It's fundamentally an issue where they are self involved. Alot of people in my area are not seeking therapy tbh and I do think that's a big part of it. It's difficult to fully trust people who are damaged.

luxurylover

Feb 11

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Yes to everything. Even female friends act the same way as men.

I’ve come to see that it’s a given that the minute you make any type of progress that other people haven’t achieved. you’ll be met with jealousy. Very few people are genuinely happy for other people’s progress. Siblings, parents, female or male friends, romantic partners, colleagues at work can all be jealous if you succeed at something they haven’t achieved.

Sometimes they don’t even want what you have; they just don’t want you to have something that makes you feel or look good. What’s an example of this? Anna and Beth are friends. Both of them have one child each with their husbands. Beth gets pregnant with a second child and tells family and friends who are excited for her and her husband. Anna doesn’t want more children and is happy with the one child she had but she envies the love and support being given to Beth. She hates the fact that Beth is loved, celebrated and the current center of attention. You see how strange that is? That’s human beings for you!

MoveBeyond

Feb 12

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You are too kind. I believe it stems from having a bereft moral code, excessive individualism and poor emotional regulation combined with an enormous ego.

Tisay.hapa

Feb 12

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That's pretty vague and makes it seem like their issues are them being a simple asshole when it's worse imo. Tons of people have poor emotional regulation and are individualistic but won't be jealous of people closest to them.

To do that they are more than just just being 'morally bereft' they have a pathological lack of awareness for themselves and reality.

I'm being straightforward as I can by explaining that these people have true deep seated issues that knowingly choose to IGNORE for years. Their feelings are not our responsibility. You might think I'm kind by thinking this is to excuses them but I feel the opposite by calling them out it exposes the truth imo. In my eyes I think they should be ashamed of themselves but when people have no self awareness it's not gonna happen. I stay away from them and build true relationships with real people.

Unknown member

Feb 11

I'm convinced that most men feel emasculated by women who earn more or are more successful than them. Also marrying a man who makes less money than you is a bad idea because you could really get screwed over in a divorce.

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Unknown member

Feb 12

I could LOVE being a breadwinner for a genuine, attractive, romantic guy who actually would take care of the house and wait for me to get home, while doing like, his side business or something.

But even when you give them that fantasy life, they just hate you for it and cheat or beat ya.

And when they DO make more than you, they Lord it over you.

Unknown member

Feb 12

She needs to leave him. I wouldn't feel safe around him. Furthermore, she's better off hiring a nanny and ditching him. She can write off the nanny's expenses on her taxes, and pay a woman who really needs a job for her family. Women, we need to think differently now that we have financial freedom. These men aren't worth the hassle.

Unknown member

Feb 12

This is a nightmare. I'm surprised the husband hasn't straight-up left her yet.

If he doesn't leave her, she should leave him. Imagine the resentment in that house.

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I make 4 times more money than my husband earns. He later admitted he was jealous of me

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