I'm sorry, but you cannot talk sense into some women.

Two X chromosomes but not 2 brain cells in her entire skull.

Jesus.

Fucking.

Christ.

Reddit is pick-me city and any based comments are always down voted. That's why FDS and GenderCritical went off Reddit to their own platforms in the first place. Reddit is a male and TiM-dominated space and openly hostile to women, save maybe some niche hobby subreddits. So nothing new here. Of course everything regarding relationships and dating on there will be mind boggling to read. I personally don't think it's beneficial to waste our time doing this. Sometimes I'd give out Ovarit codes to women who seemed like they were starting to be done with male bullshit, but we can't save everyone. Many of us were once stupid and naive too and took a while to "wake up".

Omg.

It's tough to break the socialization we endured as girls to give boys, and then "grown-up" boys the benefit of the doubt.

But seriously, that woman needs to grow up and delete that scooter (spell check keeps changing "scrote" to scooter haha) from her contacts.

It would be one thing if it were just OOP being delusional, but for me it's all the commenters being Pickmes and Scrote Enablers, making up every stupid excuse in the book for his behavior. I'd say it's pretty obvious he's just jerking her around. They clearly don't understand men, they don't understand relationships, so what compells them to fucking speak on the topic? "Oh poor men no one makes enough excuses for their shitty behavior" they all say, as they join in the cacophony of excuses of other people who think "no one thinks about the poor men's". So when OOP comes back and talks about how this man abused or neglected her, it's "why didn't you just leave" or "you picked him". It's yet another insidious way women get thrown under the bus.

And then the male-enabling White Knight/simp who rushes in to talk about how "reddit turns any little thing into Dump Him". BECAUSE MEN ACT LIKE GODDAMN ANIMALS, DIPSHIT.

The core of her problem is that she think that she is so special. That her problems with him are very special and not relatable at all. Therefor, EVERYBODY will never understand the special and unique bond that they have 🙄🙄🙄 She thinks she is more special and better than other girls… until she learns that either he or she is special, and that he is really just scamming her, she will be in that situation. I feel sorry for her, but at the same time, not really

What in the pick me hell is this

I have a friend who spent a whole year talking on the phone and texting some guy who lived down her road. They never met once 🤡

It's so bizarre but I guess that's what happens when you meet a scrote with no ambition who can't be bothered to do anything at all and doesn't particularly like you all that much anyway. These men are time diggers and therapy diggers. They belong in the trash.

Thankfully, my friend realised that at some point and blocked him. Sadly some women are the sort who are both blind and stubborn - they refuse to listen to good advice and keep driving in a broken wagon until they fall off the cliff everyone could see and kept telling them to avoid.

You can't help everyone. If a women lacks common sense and won't listen to reason, the best thing is to not engage and spend your time with women who actually respect your opinions and life experience. Some people need to learn from their own mistakes.

Remember that reasoning and logic can't compete with emotions. Some people have to learn the hard way. They might never learn at all.

The commenter who said "reddit tells women to break up over one bad comment from a boyfriend" and "fit into his routine!!" 😳😠 Sadly these were major messages online/in the media for at least a decade IMO. I feel really bad for this woman, as she sounds naive and so willing to assume the "boyfriend" is acting in good faith. It's upsetting how young women have been encouraged to act this way in order to "earn" a relationship. I wonder how old she is, and how much manosphere rhetoric she heard about "aging out at 25." So much of it is everywhere, even on Youtube. It's supposed to make us desperate to perform and (attempt) to settle down with any man before it's "too late."

I watched someone on Youtube say how kids used to be safeguarded on the internet (i.e. they were actively discouraged from giving out personal information). But for young women, it seems like society throws its hands up and says 'this is the modern way," "don't be a puritan," "do this or nobody will want you," and "your discomfort is a you problem."

In another post, commenter here talked about women experiencing mental health issues from crappy experiences with men. It was so insightful. Can you imagine how low the TwoX OP's self worth must be, to think she has to coax this guy out of whatever (self diagnosed?) routine? and patiently wait as he gives her no timeline?

I feel for her, as a lot of us are more naive/gullible to start. Plus as women we are conditioned to believe our human flaws are "just as bad" as whatever dishonest/sleazy thing a bloke does, and often feel dedicated to assuming good faith lest we seem "bitchy." Despite the suppsedly modern Western culture, women seem to feel shame when they express displeasure with a man or don't "give their all" to a relationship like it is a marriage IMO. With boundaries, I suspect women like OP didn't even know they could have boundaries around these things.

At least even the TwoX community seems to be waking up. I hope OP takes the "if he wanted to he would" seriously (and in the good way.) Even if this guy was for real, she would probably be doing 110% of the emotional labor and parenting him .

I can't bear to read this thread.

My online ex boyfriend traveled across the globe for me.

But I didn't show up.

He really liked me. He must've really, really wanted to be with me.

I regret it. I regret it so, so, so, SOOO much.

I regret it! I regret not meeting him with all my heart and soul!!

Now look at me. Men didn't even want to drive 30 minutes to come over to my place when I lived alone.

FUCK MY LIFEEEE!!!!