I feel so anxious dating now

Yup.

For women, dating isn't fun. The stakes are too damn high for us.

It's not something to do when we're bored, looking for a distraction or a self-esteem boost. It requires so much work on our part, that we must be in a healthy state of mind, disciplined and ready to vet like our lives depend on it.

So yeah, women don't have the luxury of treating dating like a fun hobby to pass the time. It's work.

I wouldn't say I feel anxious about dating, but after finding FDS and really implementing its values into my lifestyle, dating is pretty much nonexistent in my life now. I used to go on dates almost every week, or always have some sort of male companionship. Now I can't remember the last time I've been asked on a date because most men get blocked and deleted before they could even have a chance to ask (or they waited too long). I would say life post-FDS revelation is a lot lonelier, but also a lot safer. Do my peers judge me for being single for years now going into my thirties? Sure thing, but I doubt they are truly happy in their relationships either.

I can definitely relate to this. It’s sort of been a difficult awakening for me. I am currently taking six months to a year off dating to process all this. I’m not in a place mentally where I can do it right now — I’m *too* mistrustful and anxious. I’m also trying to stay off of places like X and Reddit where I’m exposed to Redpill content even when I’m trying to avoid it. It’s everywhere on those sites.

male violence is what makes dating anxiety-inducing. FDS helps us keep it safe. it's ok to feel overwhelmed at first. men are not trustworthy, so pretty much anything they say or do - and even what they don't say and don't do - can be a red flag. its difficult to discern...

i used to worry about the stuff you worry now before i found FDS and before i realized that i don't need men, not even for sex (that realization also happened pre-FDS). sometimes i think "but what if i meet a HVM one day and miss the chance to be happy with him because i read too much into everything and interpreted his actions as red flags for being too paranoid?" than i remember "oh wait... i can just be happy alone. don't need men, no matter if he is LV, HV or whatever. and it's not my fault men in general are LV. i'm just protecting myself."

Yep, same and I landed myself in a lot of bad relationships. It's draining and annoying but please don't become lax on your rules. For a long while I stopped letting men know where I live after a scary incident and I became lax on that. I let a guy pick me up to go on a date on a Friday after work so I wouldn't have to drive and worry about parking / gas. Big mistake bc when he proved to be a parasite I politely told him I wasn't feeling it and no longer interested. He showed up here twice even after I told him I would call the cops if he showed up and generated fake phone numbers harassing me / causing me worry / and wasting my time. So remember the rules are there for a reason and whenever I become lax on them I severely regret it.

Information is everything though, and it is hard and alarming to retrospectively examine how dating might have seemed prior to FDS. I am in my fifities and thought I knew it all, I really didn't. I had it pointed out to me on here that my last few relationships were with abusive men (abusive in different ways). I have deleted all of my posts because I am scared they will connect me to them... I am scared on OLD that I will meet another predator and from what I read on here, that is very likely. Be afraid is what I say, and be cautious and use that to make yourself SAFE because that should be your priority.