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The last straw on the camels back was placed.
My boyfriend has a Facebook account which I never added. I noticed that his ex girlfriend is on his friends list. But not me. For a long time he told me that he can't log into Facebook but I realized that he still posts on there semi regularly.
So I added him. He called me and said he can't figure out how to log in to Facebook and I said "well you publicly posted there 6 days ago so you knew" and he said he will figure out how to add me.
I checked earlier about an hour ago, and I realized that he not only declined my Facebook friends request, but he also blocked me from being able to add him again, likely tightening his security settings.
I called him and said "whatever shady shit you are doing on Facebook, I don't care. But I am not going to stick around anymore". He yelled at me "stop putting so much emphasis on social media!!!!" And I said "I don't care. Clearly there is something you are trying to hide from me. Too many things you do don't add up. I don't want to be with you anymore."
He keeps texting me and asking me to call him and talk to him and stuff and he says he will call me later today. But I am just tired. Tired of feeling unwanted or like an inconvenience. What the heck would he try hide from me on Facebook besides another girl or some kind of criminal record? I can't do this anymore. It's the last straw.
FINALLY! So proud of you! That must've been super hard but you did it!! Please, please, pleeeeease block this disgusting scrote to prevent him from gaslighting you back into his arms. He's going to be pulling out all of his tools out from raging to screaming to crying to begging to even making you feel like this is all your fault. It's all a trap to confuse you further. There is no more smoke or mirrors here anymore; you're free.
Block him. Block him NOW.
I'm proud of you. We all have generally words of tough love for pickme behavior, because on a cultural level they are much needed. But the truth is, is incredibly hard to get out of toxic relationships with bad men. Maybe it's easier not to get involved in the first place. But once you're in, it's like trying to find your way out of the fog while being sick with food poisoning. It takes a lot of sheer bravery, determination, integrity. Well done ❤️
UPDATE: so he called me and I asked him “what is on your Facebook that your ex can see but I can’t?” And he said: “the truth is, there are pictures of me with other girls on there and I don’t want you to see it”. I said “well! As long as it’s from before we started dating then I don’t care!” He said “you see. This is what I am talking about. You are too controlling! I’m not going to bend to your will!” Me: “well? Surely there aren’t pictures of you and another girl from after we started dating right?” Him: “you’re passing me off. Let’s take a break. I’m trying to work right now” Me: “you should be grateful that I am so attached to you” Him: “multiple girls have been attached to me!” Me: “then go date them!” I hung up and that’s that. Whatever he is doing is shady. I’m too proud to find out. I am just going to end things here. The end. Goodbye boyfriend. And literally like 5 minutes after this conversation a guy I know hits me up and asks me out lol.
Block him. Never talk to him again.
Good for you. Stay strong and don’t talk to him.
Good for you sis!! *claps*, and *hug*
Please never talk to him again. That is the best revenge. Even if you ever feel like you need "closure" or whatever- you already have it. Your (forever) silence will hurt him more than anything. You don't deserve or need to ever hear his dumbass voice or explanations at all ever again. Never ever let a man show you more than once that he doesn't want you (and only you), or appreciate you. Do NOT let him gaslight you. I know (from experience) it can be tempting to want to contact him again (or answer his call/text) even if it's just to tell him to go fuck himself or whatever, but DON'T.
A really hard pill for me to swallow after getting out of my last relationship (which was actually my first and only thus far) was that men will literally lie until their teeth fall out. There can be (and clearly is) evidence that literally disproves everything they are saying and they will still gaslight you and make YOU feel like you're the POS for being upset over both the actions and then the dishonesty. Lying is in a man's nature. Even if he has a whole ass other girlfriend, he will still say whatever he thinks he has to say to get you to stick around because he's an entitled cockhole who believes that he should have any/every woman he pleases in his life. I know you are smarter than to ever speak to him again, but I really would like to emphasize once more: DO NOT EVER SPEAK TO HIM AGAIN. THERE IS NO BENEFIT TO IT FOR YOU. IT WILL ONLY GIVE HIM ANOTHER OPPORTUNITY TO GASLIGHT AND MANIPULATE YOU. And especially post-breakup, when your emotions are a wreck, no matter how smart you are, there is always the chance you will end up believing his lies. He showed you loud and clear what kind of person he is so now for the sake of your own mental well being and future, you have no other choice but to #BLOCKANDDELETE and never look back. Best of luck!!
Lol same thing happened to me. Guy I was dating said he has no social media. Turns out he had a secret Facebook with pics of his ex still up. Wtffff 😂
he didn't even try to come up with good lies lol
Going through something very similar. Would love to block and delete, but we are too intertwined at the moment and he's holding a bunch of my stuff hostage at his place. I really hope you're okay. My scrote keeps lying and gaslighting too. It's infuriating. Stick to your boundaries and stay strong.
Tight hugs to you 🌸🌸 Good job and hang in there. Do not unblock! Ever! If you unblock you will only be reminded why you blocked him in the first place in a worse way. Don't forget. All the best 👑
Congrats on putting yourself first. Your relationship with you is the best relationship to invest in. Hold tight to your anger on how he treated you and remember what you deserve!
He sounds exhausting. Just block and delete him already. Don't waste any more energy on this fiasco.
C'mon, at this point you're just stirring up more drama. BLOCK AND DELETE already.
So today he called me and I answered (I know I know) and he told me that: 1. he is embarrassed about his past and that he was with other women doing things like going to hawaii and Vegas with them. I told him that I am not jealous that he travelled with other women because I have reservations about sex and he has not had sex with me yet so I don’t feel any resentment about spending the night together with him. 2. I am a chismosa and I will go through his Facebook page with a fine tooth comb and question him about what I see. I told him “of course I will analyze the man who I am supposedly going to marry and have children with on Facebook and any other way I can” to which he replied “you see? I told you so!” 3. That he can’t get emotionally attached to me yet because we haven’t had sex yet. I said that I am still a virgin, raised by religion and purity culture, and that every time we agree on a set date to have intercourse, he does something that blows or he doesn’t promise that if I back out and freak out he will be happy with just doing ~everything else~
4. Also he said I ruined his day yesterday and made him stressed and depressed while working. Bitch I work too.
He basically guilt tripped me about not having sex yet even though from day 1 he knew I am a virgin, religious and impacted by purity culture, and that I literally am doing ~everything else~ with him.
Why not just be single? He’s clearly juggling women, so why have a gf? Trash. Ghost the fk outta him girl. Best revenge is taking your entire attention away from him.
I secretly went out with a guy friend, one who my current ex was super jealous of despite him only being a friend and being extremely respectful and not liking me and he keeps boundaries and he took a bunch of pictures of me. This friend is into photography and while I still am insecure about my weight I am glad to have some pictures to gradually share on social media.