How would you respond to this message?

Thanks for your input. I'm glad you picked up on his mansplainy vibe as well.

Would your answer be the same if I told you I am more politically "conservative" than he is? We usually refer to misogynistic conservative men as "devil's advocates", but in this case, I am the conservative one. He strikes me as potentially a libfem (the sex-positive, 50/50 kind), but I'm not sure.

It wouldn't change my view, no. In fact, in my experience men who are more liberal get even more smug and annoying about things they want to convince you of (especially if it's something that would benefit them or other men, like the libfem talking points) while conservative ones just cut their losses at some point.

Couldn't have put it better myself. Pretentious wankbag.

I knew of a guy who would constantly want me to prove truthful statements I made about misogyny in society etc, and if I didn't want to partake in the mental load of compiling f*ckloads of evidence he would say I was cowardly and couldn't back up my claim. He also would ghost me and go off with other women while blaming his absence on family problems or mental health. His FB wall was chock full of woe is me posts as well lol. Oh and he would say how white western women needed to stfu about oppression, once he said he wanted to k*ll his cheating ex and erm... feed her child to her, and he would generally turn our conversations sexual and not understand (or care about) feminist topics such as the beauty industry and the sex industry

He was also a Jordan Peterson fanboy. "hE iS mIsIntErpRreTeD". No he f*cking isn't you logicbro 🤣

When I did send him statistics about crimes or some other misogyny-based topic, he would question them. One of the things he used to say was that "statistics can be wrong" as well as "it is actually men who face more violence" (he had to be trolling me with that last one surely?) and "actually there are some women who have started wars". Ironically he never gave me proof of his claims

Yeah I know that type of devil's advocate. The mere fact that women's lived reality is just so abstract to them is proof how privileged and self absorbed they are. There's nothing to debate here, my man. Almost every woman has a sexual assault story and every one has a sexism story. There is more than enough proof. It's not about a lack of proof, it's that they want us to jump through hoops for them until they acknowledge our humanity and our struggle (if they ever do, that is). Which is the definition of patriarchy. We are dependent on men to believe us. Which wouldn't be the case if we were truly equal.

Agreed! If nothing else, the murder joke made me stop in my tracks.

This is so creepy. It didn’t occur to me that his message might be a cut-and-paste until hours after I read it.

Point made!

I did not say the message was HV. I was questioning whether I should respond, because something about it rubbed me the wrong way, but I could not verbalize the reason(s), which was why I asked for advice.

Your gut was definitely right even if you couldn't pin point why exactly it rubbed you the wrong way.