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First understand that a HVM is rare and hard to come by, so there will be millions of women trying to get his attention -- politely or otherwise.
You wish they would respect the fact that he is your man -- but let's be honest, that's not the world we live in. FDS-minded women are still the minority -- the rest are still hoping for that prince charming of their dream.
So you will deal with this situation again and again and again and again. So be prepared.
Second, read this post first: Signs of Healthy Jealousy.
Notice the theme?
Always remember, if he wants to, he would.
And in this case, if he wants you -- nobody else may sway his attention. No matter how beautiful and sexy they are.
Hard to believe? Sure, men and their d*cks and all that -- but do remember that HVM aren't like the rest of them.
He is a man of integrity, of discipline, of solid morality, -- he isn't easily swayed, his loyalty to his partner is just like you.
Are you easily swayed when someone hotter suddenly flirt with you? No? Then it isn't a stretch to think that a HVM will be like that too.
And no, while he may still be civil with those women -- he still exercise his boundaries, and will not let those women cross it.
He will be polite, but also firm and disciplined when those women try to ramp up their seduction.
And most importantly, he will never make this issue your burden.
Did you notice the theme in Signs of Healthy Jealousy.?
If you still don't get it, here's the theme:
You will never be held accountable for other people's actions. Ever.
There's other men vying for your attention? He will get jealous, that's normal -- but it is not your fault.
Same thing with his case -- other women trying to seduce at get his attention? Not his fault, certainly not yours -- and it is not your burden to carry.
He will handle it and solve the issue.
Why? Because he doesn't want you to get upset and stressed out by other people's actions -- so he will deal with it.
This is the biggest difference between a man and a woman when it comes to handling relationship problem, and why man is the one responsible for MATE-GUARD instinct -- not you.
Because you will get stressed out and upset when dealing with these type of issues -- but he will get right into problem-solving actions.
So that's why even when it is about other men vying for your attention -- he will be the one dealing with it.
Because you are the one he loves -- if you get upset, he won't feel happy. You influence the mood of the household because you are the [Home] to his [House].
Happy wife, happy life isn't just an empty quote, you know?
The other woman/women may be younger than you, prettier than you, sexier than you, smarter than you, basically full-package complete that you can't even think about competing with her -- but here's the thing;
You aren't competing. Choosers don't compete -- choosers choose. The HVM chased after you, and you chose to let him enter your life. Now another far more beautiful woman is chasing after him -- what will he do?
Again, he chased after you. You can compare yourself with other women until the sun rises from the west and you still wouldn't understand why he likes you so much and chases after you like a madman -- but he chases after you.
It is illogical, because men date with feelings, so the best answer you will get is that he chases after you because he wants [YOU], not some other woman.
Plus no matter what scrotes may say, men don't like being chased. It doesn't give them the same high as chasing tirelessly after a woman that doesn't make it easy for them.
And this is especially true for HVM because they are honest with their desire and aren't easily blinded by lust and easy results.
A HVM WANT to chase and HATE being chased.
He will politely, but firmly and persistently turned those women's advances down.
If those women started rumors and trying to smear campaign you in some way -- he will be the one standing up and ruthlessly shooting down all those rumors one by one.
He may get clingier and hug you a little tighter and kiss you a little deeper in public just to show em and spite em.
Because you have to understand -- you are the person who receives his entire affection, and those women are (in his mind) trying to take you away from him, so his MATE-GUARD instinct will be triggered. Yes, even with those beautiful seductive women.
So you are going to "suffer" tenfold increase in his attention and affection until those women go away.
So just bear it until then.
Stay safe, Stay WOMAN.
This im sick of hearing “All men cheat get used to it!!” like no you’re lowering the bar into the ninth circle of hell
Decent men would rather eat their foot than cheat lol
My ex used to let me know in subtle and not-so-subtle ways that he had other prospects and sometimes flirted with women right in front of me. Yeah. I know. Glad he's an ex now. In general I was used to men "playing the field" even though they were in relationships, I've seen too many taken men do it, and have been the "target" of those men myself. Anyway, my current partner is the first one where I've seen the mate guarding instinct kick in. I remember at a party a guy I had known from school sat next to me and started talking to me, and asked me what brought me here, I pointed to my bf whose friend had invited us, and he immediately said: "Yeah. We're together". I almost laughed. It was this instant "hey dude, back off" kind of thing. I've never seen it before. He's not the jealous type at all, but he definitely likes to demonstrate that we're a couple. Anywhere we go he only has eyes for me. That's how it should have been all along! Not me feeling like I need to "compete" with other women.
I’m not convinced that all HVM look incredibly desirable on the surface or that they have tons of women falling over them. My boyfriend is introverted, more awkward than charming, fit and nice-looking but not a stud or a pretty boy.
It took me months of vetting to discover the depths of his kindness, intuition, and generosity (actually it’s a neverending journey). Other women may miss these amazing qualities, because they’re looking for charm, wealth, extroversion, machismo, buffness, conspicuous consumption, stylishness, etc etc.
The right HVM for you will be a natural fit with YOU, but not necessarily with tons of other women too. Don’t feel discouraged that you’ll be in a situation where he’s like Elvis with women throwing themselves at him. HVM are special, yet that specialness can be invisible to people who do not share FDS values. Stay optimistic, open, and confident!
High Quality Post 😍
While reading your post, I remembered 2 situations. One was my ex letting me know that his one female friend was flirting with him and she had lost sooo much weight, she got skin removal surgery and was looking soooo good, and then showed me pictures of her.
The other one was the guy I'm seeing rn telling me about this female colleague that tried to make conversation with him a few times and at first he felt a bit flattered, but then it got uncomfortable really fast. He answered a "my woman likes xy too" (sounds better in our language, which isn't English) and ended her approaches that way.
The focus is on how such stories are delivered by men. Take notice. It shows character; if its a consistent behaviour that is.
What would you say to someone who does feel easily swayed by someone “hotter” (not really relevant) flirting with them, and thus can’t imagine a man not feeling the same?