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I've posted about my boyfriend before. He has calmed down lately and things have been ok so far. I'm still a virgin for what it's worth.
We see each other about once every two weeks, or once every other week. We used to see each other almost every weekend and some weeks days, but our time together has gone down.
I am working full time, overtime, and am in school and go to the gym regularly. I am pretty exhausted all the time so it's not like I have the energy or time to see a guy more than once a week. Soon I will do an internship which will take up even more time. But I can make time if he plans, which he doesn't. Or when he does he cancels and reschedules at the last minute.
I am pretty down. I called him today asking if we will see each other this weekend and he said no, he has to work. Why can't he tell me? Why do I have to ask him?
My hairstylist said it's not normal for a guy to see someone he loves only once every couple weeks.
This dude calls me like 3-4 times a day to declare his love for me and every night before bed. I've posted his issues before too. Lately things have been uneventful but I am well aware that his bad behavior will come out again as well.
Who cares if it's normal? (The answer is no, it is not.) More importantly, are you getting your needs met? It doesn't sound like it. Don't ever beg a man to give you his time. He's a manipulative loser and you can do much better. Stop entertaining this lazy lying douchebag. He doesn't love you and he doesn't care about you enough. A man who is worthy would move mountains to see you as often as you allow it. Throw this one back.
Talk is cheap.
So what if he calls you 3-4 times a day? All he has to do is touch a button and you're there. There's no effort on his part.
If a man isn't spending time and/or money on you, he isn't interested.
In one of your comments you’ve stated that 80% of the time he doesn’t want to see you. That should tell you everything you need to know. He is not into you. You have created a fantasy relationship that doesn’t actually exist because he keeps manipulating you through calls and texts so he can string you along.
Wake up sis, you’re being walked all over because you’re an easy target given your low self-esteem and self-worth. Love is actions, not bullshit words in a phone call.
Yeet this time-waster out of your life, and invest your love and energy into yourself. You’ve admitted you have low self-esteem. Stop dating and work on that. Let’s be real, dating someone with low self-esteem and confidence is mentally draining.
Girl, I saw your recent posts here and I'm telling you, your boyfriend is a toxic piece of fucking trash and you need to dump him asap because as someone once said on here: there are more red flags here then at a fucking communist party.
Just to quote some things you've said:
- You think he can become emotionally abusive or manipulative.
- He steals.
- You suspect him of cheating yet he suspects you of cheating. He is jealous and controlling (I am 99% sure he is the cheater)
- He doesn't respect the fact that you don't want sex with him, gets angry and shouts at you. Then he's telling you that you're overreacting and too panicky. That's abuse, gaslighting and you're very close to being sexual abused if you haven't been already.
- You're almost one year in a relationship and haven't met his family.
- He wants to piggyback your credit card? Like wtf? Why? So he is not responsible for the charges made on your credit-card?
Come on.
You KNOW this man is bad for you. You KNOW this because you wrote all these things yourself, you are not a dumb woman, you just think you can't live without this pos.
Fun fact: You definitely can!!
Make an escape plan asap and gtfo.
You know this dude is toxic, however temporarily calm he may be. Please cut him off already.
It's not working out. Break up.
Your bf needs to be dumped. Dump him then block and delete. He is putting zero effort to see you even if you are both busy. Priorities!
When a guy really likes you, and you've moved beyond the initial stage, he usually wants to see you as much as possible and is obviously trying to restrain himself from doing that. There's no way he'd be fine with just seeing you every two weeks.
He’s getting sex every other week with another woman and waiting you out, since you’re the virgin. You’re not really in a relationship. This guy is just waiting for your emotions to push you to have sex with him, and he’ll probably bounce afterwards knowing what males are like. Date other guys whilst he’s gone with the other girls he sees. Find the one who’s moving the relationship towards marriage not towards grinding you down via being ignored so that you’ll give up your virginity in hopes of seeing him more.
Please end this relationship. The red flags are many and vibrant.
At the beginning I tend to see people almost half of every week and as it settles into a more relaxed pace I see them 2-3 times a week. I'd be cool with every other week if we weren't exclusive and I had a roster, but not otherwise.
Big hugs to you, Queen. This all sounds super painful. Please check out Crappy Childhood Fairy’s (Anna Runkle) YouTube videos on the how’s and why’s of so many of us getting hooked into lopsided relationships with users due to trauma from our childhoods. We can truly heal and level up once we realize wtf is going on. 💕
Yeah it’s not normal. I’d say you should see each other four days a week.
Put yourself first. Choose you.
How do you live normally? I mean without him. If he isn’t levelling your life up then why ever bother?