How long after you start dating would it be appropriate to have a house date?

House date = he’ll try to push for sex. If he hasn’t offered commitment, he’s getting impatient for sex. No house dates until you’re certain you want sex or that he’s publicly made you his gf.

How well do you know him? Do you trust him? Do you trust that he won't hurt you once given the opportunity?

Of course you can never know.

It is up to you, but what is "proposed to stay in" really means? "If he wanted to, he would". So he's got a busy schedule... what about a late night movie, dessert, or early morning coffee, or he drop flowers at your place before work?

Why does he immediately jump to "stay in"? Sounds like mask drop, low effort, wants a return on investment for easy access to sex.

Is this what you want, or what he wants?

Wait as long as you possibly can to stop going out on dates, bc that’s what this transition to home dates generally is. Not clear here 1) how long you’ve dated over those 7 dates, and 2) His place? or yours?

Men think going to his house means you want to have sex.

The Rules by Fein & Schneider say don’t have men over until you’re committed on a path to engagement/marriage.

Oh heck no. You don't want this fucker to know where you live. Only 7 dates? Girl he's getting antsy for sex and will try to maneuver you into it once he's there.

Also, why are you going to his house? He should be Dating you, not bringing you home where the effort and expense is the absolute lowest.

This is the same reason I WILL NOT drive my vette to dates, it's far too easy to track me down if I decide we're done. Out of all the of dudes I dated after my divorce (before I decided it wasn't worth it) I brought home ONE. And that was after we dated for 9 months and I decided he was trustworthy enough to subject him to my very large, very redneck, very overprotective family. Not only do I not want these guys being able to show up where I live, Home dates = Sex to men, and finally I don't want them seeing my house & land and wanting it for themselves.

Your home is your sanctuary. Don't pollute it with the bad vibes of slutty men.

This is yet another red pill tactic. Pretending that he has no compatible time to see you. Think about it, he has made time to see you for the first 7 dates, but now suddenly he has no time so it has to be an at-home hang out?

These men read books, blogs and listen to podcasts/YouTube videos about how to game us, ladies. We have to be steps ahead of them.

Also, from experience once they know where you live the block and delete gets messy. Try dealing with a man ringing your doorbell and shouting for an hour outside your door because he’s decided cutting him off is not acceptable.

Are you ready to have sex and probably be ghosted? Because that's what this is a setup for. He should be wanting to spend more time with you outside of bed and be asking to be your man before you are alone in private with him.

I think you’ve done very, very well that he’s taken you out on seven dates while (appearing) to be high value. I do think you should wait as long as you possibly can before going to his house because men do believe you want sex when you come to their house and vice verse or they’ll at least attempt to push you for sex. If he has committed to you, and he publicly introduced you as his girlfriend I think it would be OK, but if that hasn’t occurred yet, I think it’s a bad idea because going to his house often means less dates at that point and less (if any) chance of being considered as his girlfriend and/or wife.

When you are engaged