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One of my aunties wanted to set me up with a guy she knows . I live in a nice big city and he lives in a s*** town in the middle of nowhere.
I told her I am a big city girl but I am open to it if the guy is flexible about location because I felt that she was expecting me to move there (!!?)
She didn't like my answer, and said something which meant in substance "beggars can't be chosers"
I honestly feel so alone and angry. Men put us down, other women put us down. We have no allies.
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You shouldn't stop feeling angry. Your anger is telling you something. Your anger is putting up a boundary. Your aunt is an asshole. Your ally is yourself until you find someone with values that align with yours.
Is she calling YOU the beggar? 🤡 When he is the one who lives in a shithole? 🤡 And she is begging you to date him on his behalf? 🤡
She brought to you an OPTION, you said maybe, she said you have no choice. Lol.
They don't live in objective reality. That's sad. Pity them and ignore them.
Who the fuck is begging?
Certainly not you.
Laugh in her face next time she pulls a stunt like this and say "Why? So I can be as miserable in my relationship as you are?"
You're not alone. We have each other as women. Even the pick-mes, although it will take time and patience to help them see their errors. (Some may not be able to be saved, so do what you can and cut out toxicity when you must cut your losses.)
Anger is our right, and our power. Our collective rage should be heard. Read "Good and Mad" by Rebecca Traister, "Rage Becomes Her" by Soraya Chemaly, etc. I saw a new BBC article about women's rage growing worldwide, even ahead of men's. https://www.bbc.com/news/world-63874001
Also your aunt sounds like a total pick-me and she's denigrating you at the same time. Gross. Block her until she's willing to be cordial or at least apologize.
Your aunt must be miserable.
Do you have the option to block her? Some relatives aren’t worth keeping in our lives. Especially someone who talks like that to you