Help, I feel really stuck for my questions about gender identity

I'd never take such a course. Is it a prerequisite these days? Men are male, and women are female. Period. It's basic biology, and if you're one of the few born as a freemartin or have Swyer Syndrome, then you still have the skull and skeleton of a female or a male with malformed genitals. A genetic anomaly doesn't get to change all of humanity.

I think you are experiencing the cognitive dissonance and emotional discomfort that comes when you encounter the doublespeak and mistifications of queer theory and all postmodern thought on steroids.

These philosophies, whose theoretical framework informs the kind of course you are doing, are highly contradictory, paradoxical, confusing, and inconsistent, although this is lost on many young people because they are highly idealistic and this goes well with the heavy immaterialistic, dissociative nature of this kind of thought. It all revolves around the idea of deconstructing reality from a reasonable degree to a degree that flirts with psychosis, in the name of justice (which funnily enough is very absolute, I call it Schroedinger's relativism). If you go deep enough into this stuff you'll see how this deconstruction is never as radical as to question ACTUAL power dinamics in society, it's just extreme in a convoluted way that actually perpetuates them.

What's worse, there's a lot of peer pressure around this world view as the "cool" and "progressive" one (it's not), so you rightfully sense that manifesting your discomfort will result in some sort of shaming or branding you as backwards (it might). The fact that these people are highly performative, don't shine for independent thinking and value group approval over authenticity, it tells you everything you need to know about their issues.

These scenarios are personally the stuff of my nightmares, logical inconsistencies + gaslighting + peer pressure? I mean I'd rather get drunk with normies and take shit from them than enduring this 1984 fest. But anyway: welcome to the humanities academia! Just get through it and make your intellectual and emotional antibodies. Avoid when possible and if not, make sure you have spaces where you can vent and be your authentic self and go back to actual reality. Knowing their school of thought helps in managing them, but if you have better things to do with your time do those ones instead.

Hey, so I'm 20 now, but around ages 12-15 I consumed a LOT of Tumblr content that made me question my gender.

I grew up with older brothers and a pretty masculine mom who hated anything feminine, so naturally I always hung around boys growing up and even still today, I have a bit of trouble with female friendships. I just find masculinity and male friendships to be so comfortable.

This doesn't change the fact that I am female, I have breasts, I menstruate every month, I could get pregnant if I wanted to, and I face sexual harassment and weird comments. I am female in every way, no matter what I dress like, talk like, or act like. I am attracted to both men and women, but I choose not to act on my desires towards women.

PLEASE tune out this gender nonsense as much as you can. There are only men and women, and among men and women there are some people confused about their identity and also intersex people born with abnormalities.

I am in college as well and I just stay quiet in these conversations. These people are very unlikely to change their minds about queer topics, so just attend these classes, get the grade, and move on. Once you graduate you will not have to participate in these talks as much (depending where you work)

Distance yourself from gender ideology everywhere you see it. It is a poison that only encourages entitlement of a fantasy. Those people will never be able to be there for you in times of need nor in times of celebration because they're too wrapped up in being tortured by problems of their own making.

Start looking at it for what it is- a lack of integrity paired with magical thinking about how perfect life could be if they could impose their personal fantasies on the real world.

This is so silly of me, but can someone just tell me I’m not a bad person for disagreeing? That I don’t need to be “more open-minded” or “listen more.” I’ve literally tried so hard to understand. Am I bigot? Is this justifying my bigotry? God, I don’t know anymore.

I was struggling with gender identity when I was a teen. My temperament and interests are ''stereotypically'' masculine, I had undiagnosed autism, could not fit in with female peers ane wanted to be a boy when I was a child. I thought I would be better off as a man. I started hanging around LGBT clubs, especially gay guys and FTMs. Every single FTM I met was a mixture of stereotypical male interests/temperament, autism, male related trauma, not fitting in with girls etc. etc. The ones that ended up going the transition route very happy for the first few years, due to the high of achieving what they were fighting for, but now struggle with a ton of mental illness and are visibility unhealthy, it looks like hormones are slowly eating them away. I no longer keep contact but found out many have detransitioned by age of 25.

Nobody talks about the damage hormones inflict on female bodies or how medical transition with hormones and surgery are irreversible.

The whole rise of FTMs is due to sexism and misogyny. These are girls who are told by society and LGBT that if they are not stereotypically feminine they must be men in women's bodies.

I would highly recommend reading r/detrans on reddit. It is eye opening.

I relate! In my literature class, we were focusing on feminist literature and how women’s voices are silenced by patriarchy. Then (apropos of nothing) this trans activist male brought up a news article about JK Rowling and said that that woman ought to just “shut up”. I bit my tongue because I’d be ostracised if I voiced my true opinion. Oh, what painful irony! Of course, the class was blind to it all. It is times like these that remind me acutely that women occupy the bottom of the totem pole in society. I seek out likeminded friends or friends who aren’t mired in this toxic discourse and aren’t TQ+ activists.

I don't know why such worthless class even exists.

Xx = female

Xy = male

Simple.

people need to start dropping their gender study class and take a biology class instead.

those kind of classes only produce more misogyny on steroids, like this delusional misogynistic failed male in a dress puking all HIS clownery:

https://www.peaktrans.org/terf-is-a-slur/

(it's pretty fucking disturbing & triggering so read at your own discretion)

Your feelings are valid, as a woman on FDS I oftentimes feel like I'm not represented. Seriously, How does one equate people with disabilities with lesbians? They are like apples and oranges. There's alot of bs in academia so obviously your feelings are valid. We women are oppressed and I am so thankful for FDS and RadFem. Thing is, you talk about your transfriends, then you move on to the course. I don't really get what you're asking for. Honestly, we women are often left out when it comes to discussing minorities, despite being the most pressed ones (some women are more oppressed than others). What is making you feel this way? Maybe I have a clue, but once you figure this out, it will be easier. From my experience, it's often best to be strategic about things and keep it down when it doesn't harm us personally.

Gender identity ideology is a magical dogma, and it's a scandal that it's being taught in college classrooms. Gender identity ideology is anti-woman, pro-pedophile, and pro-depraved males. Your professors pushing this ideology are either morons or misogynists. If your gut is yelling you that your gender identity lessons are bogus, misogynist bullshit, trust your gut. Get good grades, and get out of that school with a degree. That will benefit you. But know that the qualjty of your education isnt very good. Do your own reading on the side to counteract the gender lessons. Basically, get into terf spaces online.

How can we get L”s to drop out of the LGBQTIA++ grouping? Let everyone have their own separate class to address their own unique problems. I’m tired of women being lumped in to this cluster as if they share the same issues; they don’t.

oof, it's a minefield. No-one ever consulted Lesbians before re-defining the word to include men. A few Magdelene Berns videos point out the...problematic nature of the whole theory. It's very...non-consenusal.

I see the gender identity cult to be a failing of modern feminism. We have managed to decouple sex and gender from each other a little but not enough. Early feminists were the ones who introduced gender as a topic because 'woman' does not equal 'feminine;' they wanted to have their own personalities and freedoms, and not be prescribed into a way of being.

Now however, if a person does not match up to their prescribed gender they have the option to change sex or be non-binary. If you don't want to be a feminine woman you must be a man! Being a non-feminine woman is not allowed.

So you can be the person you want, but only by presenting as the appropriate sex.

When trans and non-binary people come out and live they way they want to it is authentic. They light up and life is better. It's just a shame they have to dissociate away from their sex to do so.

https://ovarit.com/o/TransLogic/new