He left.

You fall in love with him.

You spend a years, five years, a decade with him.

There are little red flags littered here and there and everywhere -- but they aren't big enough, obvious enough, dramatic enough to make you think twice.

Because having one person to be in love with, is comfortable.

So you continue to spend two years, seven years, two decades with him.

And after sufficient enough time (that he knows that you are in too deep) -- he reveals his true color.

And by then, you say "it's too late".

Always remember though;

He will leave.

He leaves.

He left.

For whatever reason he deems true enough to leave.

He ain't pondering the 1001 reasons why he "couldn't" or feel the overwhelming fear of what would happen, what will came crashing down, what consequences he will get--what if what if what ifs;

He just leaves.

Even if he doesn't leave or hasn't leave -- that's because he deems it beneficial for him to stay.

If he want to, he would.

And that includes leaving.

He walks away because he want to, the 1001 reasons and debate and logicalizing ain't needed.

"Because I want to" is enough for him.

No, I don't want you to do to people what he had done to you -- I don't want you to be like him;

But I do want you to think for a moment -- why is it so hard for you to prioritize yourself for once?

Why do you always have to be the one suffering?

Just for a little bit -- try to relax.

I know, the fear is overwheling. The uncertainity is scary -- this one guy has constantly failed you, for all the demands he make;

But at least he is someone you know -- a constant factor, something sure and known and familiar, something comfortable;

Something that's in your control, no surprises.

That's your need for security.

Because we are woman, we want our own bubbles of safety and security.

You want a trusted home, that you can breathe in and be yourself.

But he ain't it sis.

For all the 1001 reasons and overwhelming fear of what ifs that keeps you awake at night;

He already left.

"What about the children!" you say?

He doesn't even remember their birthday.

He ain't it, sis.

Think about it. Just think about it.

Sometimes you just have to relax and walk the road, keeping a cautious eye while letting things be.

Life itself is a big ball of uncertainity -- so why fear?

He left -- why can't you?

Stay safe, Stay WOMAN.