He blew up my phone and acted entitled to me - I blocked him

In the past I had a male friend from college and we reconnected a little. We both worked and he'd usually call me after dinner and we'd chat about our day. He had asked me out on a dinner date, but I said that I wanted to chat with him a little bit first to even see if we were compatible, and that I wanted to take things a little slow. He agreed and I started enjoying the little phone calls every few days. (I also had some health issues which i why i wanted to move slowly)

Anyways, the calls were fun. Just a half hour of chatting every few days and a few check in texts daily. I started to get a feel for his situation and life goals.

This was going on almost 3 weeks. I was starting to feel confident to take him up on the dinner offer (which i had another week until I got my cancer results). He didn't know how serious it was, but he did know I had a surgery and a wound that was also healing. He even seemed supportive and concerned in a healthy and mature way.

And then one night, there was some family drama that happened and I was at my parents house, helping out and running errands all day. I wasn't on my phone.

When I was finished and went to head home, I got my phone back out and noticed four missed calls and three text messages ... all from him! The first text was a generic "how was your day", with the second being "can I call?" And the third was "why are you ignoring me? Are you mad at me?" There was also a voice-mail from him, which was him, sounding angry saying "I don't know why you won't answer. Are you mad at me? What did I do wrong? You should communicate with me, I thought we were friends."

I felt the ick of disgust as a result of his audacity. We never had a set agreement to call for a set date and time. He'd just casually call every few days after he was home from work. I was shocked and disgusted to see that he had blown my phone up because I didn't respond to him during the course of one evening. Hearing the pissy tone in his voicemail-and the fact he felt the need to leave a voicemail at all - was revolting. You could suddenly just hear the pissy mantrum and hate that he didn't have immediate access to me - that I wouldn't drop everything on a dime to "communicate" with him.

In thar moment, he had shown me exactly the scrote who he was, all the red flags came out at once. I sighed sitting in my car preparing to head home and put on some of my favorite songs and immediately blocked his number.

👑I want to go over the lesson here: you need to know what your boundaries are. There are very few people that I will stop what I'm doing for, especially in a serious situation. This dude had done absolutely nothing to have access to me like that because that's a privilege (for close family in my case). His behavior also showed that he thought he was entitled to me: he expected me to drop everything for him and kept pushing for me to give him attention by the repeated calls and texts. It also felt sort of like harassment. He very much overreacted to it, became angry, and even started spinning it around on me to make me seem like the bad guy (you won't communicate, why are you ignoring me, insisting I was "mad" at him) whilst also victimizing himself. It's like gaslighting and it's a manipulation tactic.

Whenever my friends wouldn't respond to a text or call, I just assume they're busy and I know they'll get back to me when they have a chance. We are adults and we understand things come up. We don't blow up each other's phones demanding attention and communication.

I normally don't advise dragging out conversations to three weeks like I did but I wanted to make sure I was cancer free before bothering to get all dolled up to meet him for dinner.

So be on the lookout for entitled scrotes who blow up your phones. The good news is I am cancer free and now scrote free as well :)