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Men have annoyed me in many ways and one trait I noticed in a lot of men (when I used to talk to them) is that they can be very (deliberately) vague.
You'll ask a guy what he does for work and he'll just mention the industry he's in - for example:
Me: "What do you do for work?"
Him: "I work in finance".
Him: "What about you?"
Me: "I work as a [insert job] and I've been there x number of years, etc.
I've made the effort to say a bit more while the guy keeps his cards close to his chest.
I've met guys who have said that they work for themselves and when I ask what they do, they just say that they do "business". Some of them didn't say anymore more than that while others took a long time to say what type of business they did after me asking them why they were being vague.
Another example of this is meeting a man and asking him what he likes to do for fun and he'll say that he "likes to do a lot of things" without ever saying what he likes to do. Sometimes, these types of guys will ask the woman a lot of questions without saying much about themselves while others will be vague and not ask about the woman at all.
Overall, talking with a lot of guys is like trying to pull teeth. I've had some guys smirk at me when I've asked them to say more instead of just replying with one-word answers. I could tell that they enjoyed being asked by me, why they weren't saying a lot. They clearly enjoyed being perceived as "mysterious".
I find this habit that many of them have to be very annoying and it is another way to know that a man is not interested in you, is most likely a player and is someone that may have a lot of skeletons in his closet.
As anyone encountered this behaviour?
So annoying. Like ok scrote, I dont want to get to know you anyway. Stop flattering yourself; you're not mYsTeRiOuS or sToIc, youre a boring motherfucker with no personality and limited emotional range. You're also maybe unemployed???
Do the same thing right back or find better men.
Blocks and delete. They've got partners, or theyre afraid of "golddiggers."🤡 Or are just scrotes being scrotes
It’s a red pill tactic isn’t it Be as vague as you can be and ask the lady a lot of questions so they can know more about us in short span easier for them to manipulate us . It’s so annoying like why are we even talking if you giving me vague answers
It's a hard pass. End the date. Delete the conversation. They've shown who and what they are when they do this--not worth your time. It's the behavior of a routinely emasculated man with a poor grasp of what masculinity really is.
It is pretty annoying. I prefer not revealing much myself as well. They don't remember anyway. And being vague makes it easy for them to twist their own words to their benefit in any direction they want. I call red flag.
Women are WAY too honest with men. Men are NOT honest by default. They're always in competition and trying to one up someone. Be just as vague as they are. I always tell them I'm a secretary even though I'm an engineer.🤣
Honestly, two can play it that game. If he’s vague, I don’t feel the need to give details back because why would I give more and I’m learning to let the conversation be uncomfortable. In the past, I used to do all the labor in uncomfortable conversations when the guys would give me dry one word answers but I find it such a turn off that now I just soak in the uncomfortableness. Although for work, I am vague too but that’s more so for general safety because I don’t want some crazy to show up where I work.
I don't mind if a man is vague about his work, but if he's vague about everything its just fucking annoying. They don't understand that "mysterious" = abuser, NOT "omg he's so interesting!" The devil is the author of confusion. An abuser NEEDS everyone to be confused, that way he wont get arrested/held accountable.
Pro tip: If a man is vague about his "abusive" ex, he was the abuser, period. 9 times out of 10 it goes like this:
She did [insert crazy thing].
Over and over again. He never explains what let up to [the crazy thing]. He never explains her reasoning for doing [crazy thing]. She just *is* crazy and bad. She did [bad thing] and nothing else. Zero details.
Yeah, that means he was the abuser. He not only intentionally leaves out all of the details, there's a huge chance all that crazy shit she allegedly did, he actually did to her, and he's practically bragging about it. Everyone who has been abused has had their abuser justify it to our faces. They're wrong of course, but they have their own reality-twisting reasoning.
Out of about 20 men I know who claim to be victims of dv, only 1 was telling the truth. 1 y'all. Only 1. I actually got one guy to admit that he would corner his girlfriends, and grab their fucking wrists and make them hit him. 🤡
It’s so repulsive when you can tell a man is thinking a lot about how he is perceived. Like he has some idea of a cool aloof guy and he wants to be that. Wants to be the guy who doesn’t care about a pretty woman because that makes him, in his mind, better than other guys. So pathetic.
One guy was always super vague with me. To the point of absurdity. At some point I alluded to it in passing. He said, "but don't I seem mysterious?" Ugh. No, you don't. You seem like a Damn fool.
Ugh I hate it, idiotic coyness. I have replied along the lines of:
”It’s ok, no need to be ashamed. I’m sure it’s just as cool.” said with perfect IDGAF energy
(I am in a very cool profession)