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They all claim they are happy that they have the best man in the world, that their man is with them for years, and that they pity the ones who ended up with cats because of their high standards. So when I asked what they have done to keep their marriage alive I can't help but feel pain, When I listen to their story It's like they are describing dealing with a difficult toddler. They talk about how making sacrifices is needed to keep a man such as their dreams and careers for a family, they talk about how it's worth it but I can't even imagine how that's worth it. was a born and raised pickme and I'm still recovering from being a doormat and I'm telling you I vowed that nobody will ever come first in my life, Not a husband not his children, they are either second place or I'll be by myself.
I don't think anyone is truly happy with having an authoritative figure over you, what happened to equity and respect? Nope, submission is needed as a wife but he doesn't need to submit to anyone.
I focus on my career so that I'm the one who has option instead of being an option to men. I can make Men leave instead of resentfully tolerate them because I'm dependent on their money. Lead Successful life, discipline, be self-sufficient and free are the only things I can think of that creates long lasting euphoria.
They do what they can to convince themselves their miserable relationships with mediocre men are normal hence all the social media posts boasting about their “love” and all this emphasizing
You're on the right track! Self-improvement never fails so keep going with it! At the end of the day, who do we have that is a constant in our lives? Ourselves! So do everything to help yourself be the best you can be so that if you did have a man in your life and he died or decided he didn't want the relationship anymore, you wouldn't be floundering like pickmes; instead, despite your hurt and pain, you'd be able to shoulder on.
Ignore pickmes because they are lying about how happy they are and how "good" the men they're with are - it's all lies. The men they're with are either LV or have NV at all and he has no regard for the pickme he's with because she has no respect for herself. Pickmes like to pretend that all is well in their relationships to save face and to lure other women into becoming desperate to get into relationships with men so that they have other women who join in with them and suffer at the hands of men. Misery loves company and pickmes need other women to be miserable like them so that they feel less bad about the crappy situations they're in. This is why you will find some women literally hounding other women to give a man a chance. They want the women they're hounding to give in to a total loser and receive bad treatment, like them.
To paraphrase Buddy the Elf, "They sit on a throne of lies!"
Seriously though, most pick-mes take great pains to pretend their relationship is all rainbows and sunshine both as protection for their own ego and to boost their social status....
"Look at me! Look at me! I have a MAN who DEFINITELY doesn't cheat on me and leaves me alone crying on our anniversary. So sad you're still single....you're really missing out."
I was friends with a very successful model once. She was frequently on the covers of fitness magazines and had a cult following because of her resemblance to a certain sci-fi character. She had the sort of physical presence that commanded attention, and at 6'2" she turned heads wherever she went. She was also very sweet, kind, generous, and funny. She was in a long-term relationship with a similarly gorgeous man, and at first I thought he was HV based on his demeanor and the way they were together. But the better I got to know him, the more apparent it became that he was LV and she was a pick-me. At first, I resisted accepting this. How could this woman, who could have her choice of virtually any man on Earth, settle for being mistreated and taken for granted by this admittedly pretty but terribly vapid, douchey manchild? Surely I was just imagining things. After all, their respective social media posts were nothing but gushy praise of each other and assurances that they were as happy together as any two humans could ever be. Sure, they had been living together for nearly a decade and she was not thrilled that he hadn't yet proposed--but they were together, and happy, and good together. Right?
No. He ended up pressuring her to open their relationship so that he could start having sex with a much-younger model whom she knew from work. From there, the gushy posts stopped and I didn't hear from her as often as she slowly withdrew from everyone who cared about her. A few months later, they broke up in a very public and ugly way on those same social media accounts. I lost touch with her after that and think of her often. But I'll never forget how their most enthusiastic (desperate) posts about how happy they were came just before she privately revealed to me that he had been cheating on her with a woman half his age (and she was already significantly younger than him). Scrotes will scrote, no matter how good-looking or rich they are. And pickmes will do anything to excuse and justify scrote behavior, no matter how gorgeous they are or how selective they could be. The dynamic is one that is very hard to break because it was created by a lifetime of conditioning to serve men, to try to impress men, and to want men to choose us. In reality, it should be the other way around.
Usually the relationships are awful, but you get to be a SAHM if you go traditional and that works for women if they have female friends. The actual marriages are a male fever dream that don't serve the woman though.