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just thinking of things my ex said. I'm not sad right now and I'm not looking for comfort or explanation of his behavior. I'm dancing and singing right now. Baking cookies too! But my mind just thinks a lot. He called me that. But I'm just curious, have you been called a narcissist? If so, what was the context?
I'm curious if other women have been called a "narcissist" by a male. I mean, I'm sure but I would like to ask FDS ladies if you have any specific experiences.
Thank you ladies have a good rest of day or night
I've only ever been called a narcissist by projecting narcissists because they are trying to shift their shame outward. When a guy calls me a narc, it dings in my head that he is probably one (or has been called one a lot) and I stop responding to protect myself. I never tell anyone if I suspect them of an illness but I will go no contact with suspected cluster B's because everyone on the psychopath spectrum can ruin your life and not think twice.
Pretty sure my ex was a covert narc or just deeply depressed and self-absorbed. He would have these endless negative rants about his life, I'd empathise constantly and pour myself into helping him, only for him to then blame ME for apparently being the cause of it all (even though the problems existed long before we met). It would escalate to verbal abuse at me and if I didn't just cop it/apologize (like if I dared to defend myself even in the slightest) he’d just huff “here we go again, it’s ALWAYS about YOU!". Even during the breakup, he'd admit he was at fault yet still backtracked and blamed me for everything again 🤡, and proclaimed that I was the one that needed therapy (and not him) for my apparent “narcissism".
My mindset now? “Fine, if knowing my worth and standing up against disrespect makes me a narcissist, then so be it”.
Edit: What's even crazier is he has an honours psychology degree 😵💫 yet still "diagnosed" me as a narcissist!!
The vast majority (75%) of narcissists are male, the rest female. I grew up in a family of female narcissists and sociopaths and now I can spot them in minutes and cut them off immediately. There's lots of YouTube videos which show the specific types of behaviors of a female narcissist or borderline (BPD). I can't stand either of them and once I pick up on their game they're done. I'm what you call a sigma empath and have been targeted by these demonic women and men my entire life. They like to go after the light and good people with pure spirits. Most narcissists aren't self aware since they are incapable of self reflection, just like a vampire they mirror everyone and don't have any identity aka don't know who they are. Most times a male calling a woman that is projection meaning he's the narc calling you that when it's really him. When a female calls a man a narc most time she's right about him.
Most of the time, when a man calls you a bad name, he is projecting.
I’ve never been called a narcissist per se, but I’ve been called many other names, and every time, the man who called me the name was a living embodiment of that name.
Always remember: men project.
99% of the time it is THEY who are the actual narcissist.
Long ago, I dumped an ex-boyfriend who had some covert narcissist edgelord traits. I did a bunch of research on narcissism after, but then "relapsed" and we started talking again. Come to find he also had been doing a lot of research on narcissism after I dumped him! He was throwing in all the lingo and it was very... interesting. I've been called a number of things, among them a pathological liar, a prostitute, a lesbian, a vampire (not even an "emotional vampire" but like a Dracula vampire, lmao, very good). Can't remember if "narcissist" was ever specifically among them, but I don't care, lol. Let 'em think what they want.
I have not been called that personally; however, I have seen a lot of terminally-online men repeat the mantra that “narcissistic women” are the reason the western world is falling apart. I don’t engage with them, but I am always tempted to point out that per the DSM (which they themselves quoted, as if they’ve ever opened it) the vast majority of those diagnosed with NPD are men.
Laypeople need to stop diagnosing one another as an attack. Every time I hear "narcissist" thrown around nowadays I just roll my eyes. Cringe worthy.
Yes, my ex was a diagnosed narcissist (which of course in a typical narc fashion, he dismissed and claimed the psychologist was a clueless idiot) and he called me a narcissist. Typical projection. During the relationship I discovered FDS (on reddit back then) and I can honestly say that it saved me. It also has so many topics about relationships and society in general which until then I felt so alone about. FDS truly is a godsend.