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Recently I went to meet up with a man for tea and some shopping. I was immediately NOT attracted to him, but I kept this thought to myself.
When leaving, he asked if I would like to meet again, I replied i would think about it.
We hugged…I went for a platonic “side-hug” but while hugging he did this side swipe thing and kissed my ear (I’m assuming he was aiming for my cheek). I was disgusted and stormed off to my car.
This has happened before, but never in a dating context. Is this sort of thing normal? How do I avoid this in the future? Stop hugging on dates?
I do not allow a man to touch me at all on the first few dates, hugs, affection, even a handshake. My body is off limits until I invite him in. If he tosses a fit I explain that I don't like being touched until trust is established, and if he can't respect that I know it's time to drop him.
Some men have the audacity to think that they can do whatever they like with women just because we agreed to go on a date with them. They think they have the rights
Keep in mind that aggressive physical contact as early as a first date is a PUA technique. Any man who is not intimidated to touch me on a first date is a pushy creep, as I give off cold vibes and a man trying to hug or kiss me is not able or willing to read my body language. Do not dismiss your intuition. If a man makes you uncomfortable (definitely including ear/cheek kissing 🤢), don’t see him again. He’s doing it on purpose and should not be rewarded. As to how to avoid it happening again - first of all, if you immediately know you’re not attracted, consider immediately leaving. Second of all, yes I personally prefer avoiding any kind of physical contact early on, including hugging. I’m sorry he made you uncomfortable and I hope you find a method that keeps you feeling at ease on future dates ❤️
First date with a guy i went in for a hug Bc I thought that was acceptable. I proceed to get picked up and the guy wouldn’t let go. I don’t allow touching anymore for that reason. At least for the first few weeks of knowing them.
A stranger once put his hand on my thigh in a bar. I grabbed his hand,held it up high, looked around and yelled, “Does anyone know whose hand this belongs to?” He slithered away.
Be assertive and say No. Him respecting you is the only answer here.
Might be cultural, idk?