I don't have tiktok so can't watch that but what is with men thinking women just want free meals? Is this really a thing? Where?! Reddit used to be full of these threads and I never understood that. It seems like an expectation problem, like the title of your thread suggests.
I don't think they literally believe it's a free meal. They know it's about showing effort and investment. They just pretend so they can be low effort. They know we are the ones who chose and they tell on themselves. They constantly say things like "pick better men" or "she choose me out of other men" They know! It's so manipulative for them to act like they are the prize when they know damn well they aren't.
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Whenever these discussions come up in non FDS spaces, a pickme chimes in and says how she "knows lots of women" who do this. What the fuck? I've always had an eclectic social group, ranging from upper middle class educated career women down to working class single mothers who have struggled with addiction and mental health issues, and I've literally never met a woman who has done this.
All the comments with hundreds/thousands(!!!) of likes being like "this is why I pay the whole bill" and "this is why I go 50/50"...... congrats ladies, you're playing yourselves.
You can literally pay the whole ass bill and a scrote will still expect sex from you, because they're never coming at things from an even playing field - they're looking for the best reward for the least amount of effort.
Lmao facts, my fave thing to do is letting (expecting) a man to pay, and if he gets pushy af about sex afterwards, I just run away (literally), and block him haha.
The key is to not be alone with them right afterwards though (such as in his car etc.)
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It drives me a little bonkers when women throw out that clever little "gotchya" 🙄🙄🙄 (extreme sarcasm) because yes they are completely and utterly missing the fucking point. Those same men would hold literally fucking ANYTHING against you, saying or doing whatever they can to guilt trip, obligate, or manipulate you for sex. I have had men engage in this behavior when I paid for 100% of the dates. All you're doing is lowering the cost of sleeping with you, yay a nice discount for them. I mean I can understand the desire to live in denial, that fact is that many men are actually like this, because it's so dark.
I get the restaurant to call me a cab, and let me know when it's outside. I even go so far as to ask if they will be able to do that when I arrive, which gives them a clear sign that I am not going home with my date, that we are separate people going our own ways afterwards. That way I am not alone with the man at all so he can't make any hints about nightcaps at his place or walking me to a cab...
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Why the hell do men expect sex just because he paid for dinner????
I don't have tiktok so can't watch that but what is with men thinking women just want free meals? Is this really a thing? Where?! Reddit used to be full of these threads and I never understood that. It seems like an expectation problem, like the title of your thread suggests.
I will straight up ask, “ do you think I am a prostitute?” This usually shuts them up.
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All the comments with hundreds/thousands(!!!) of likes being like "this is why I pay the whole bill" and "this is why I go 50/50"...... congrats ladies, you're playing yourselves.
You can literally pay the whole ass bill and a scrote will still expect sex from you, because they're never coming at things from an even playing field - they're looking for the best reward for the least amount of effort.
Straight up coercive control —which is illegal in some countries. Run.
I get the restaurant to call me a cab, and let me know when it's outside. I even go so far as to ask if they will be able to do that when I arrive, which gives them a clear sign that I am not going home with my date, that we are separate people going our own ways afterwards. That way I am not alone with the man at all so he can't make any hints about nightcaps at his place or walking me to a cab...