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I'm kinda shocked but not really. It hurts but I'll get over it. It's just insane behavior to process. I went out with this guy one time and had a nice time. I let him kiss me. He gave me his jacket cause it was cold outside and then said I could keep it.
The day after our date he texts me asking if I want to go out over the weekend. I made a comment randomly about how much I miss FL because that's where I'm from and he asked if I wanted to go there for the weekend with him. He said he'd book the hotel and needed all my info. I got really excited I'm not gonna lie. I hate flying and I havent seen my mom in FL in years because of the phobia. So I wasn't thinking straight. Anyway after a long hot shower reality sunk in and I realized this is really dangerous risky impulsive behavior. Obviously I'm in FDS because I'm a recovering pickme so old habits die hard.
Anyway, I left him a voice message saying I had plans this weekend so I couldn't leave town but was up for doing a normal local thing.. the guy literally vanished into thin air. I think he blocked me too because this morning when I didn't hear a response still from last night... I texted him and it showed my texts were "sent as a message" and that's never happened before with him. He always has his phone by his side. Either he died or there's some other explanation or he's just a psychopath.
Thanks for reading. Just sharing because it hurts and I thought feedback or identification or empowerment could help bring me back to queendom again. Of course I'm grateful I didn't take the trip offer and I'm learning how naive I used to be in my teens and 20s... but still it's a really hard pill to swallow when you witness the way some men behave.
P.S. I appreciate the comments. Any thoughts on what I should do with this jacket? It looks expensive. Isn't it kind of fucked up to discard someone's belongings?
He wanted to fly with you to a different place and share a hotel room AFTER ONE DATE?! Dude. That's a huge red flag. 🚩Could have been anything, robber, rapist. I'm glad you got out of it. And the fact that he disappeared - I guess he was disappointed that you saw trough his bullshit so fast. So he will try the next woman.
You’re an admitted recovering pickme so I hope you don’t mind me pointing out that you should not have sent another text after the message you left last night. Who cares if he blocked you, really. He outed himself as a scrote whose only intentions were to get laid. You dodged a bullet. Reframe that shit in your mind and keep it movin.
I see it as his jacket being a way of putting himself in your space. Get rid of it. He doesn’t deserve your real estate.
Good on you for declining his "invitation". Could of been a ploy to get your personal information too. I know it stings but the trash took itself out so consider that a huge win! Just make sure to return the block and delete 💜
He gave you his jacket - then told you to keep it. You mentioned missing Florida, he offers to take you there and get a hotel with him. All after one date. And disappears when you tell him no to that but you'd be cool with another local thing?
I mean.. you may have dodged a serial killer.
After a month or so the jacket will legally be deemed abandoned- so sell it or give it away. It's getting colder and there are many women/children in need who would love to have the jacket. Also, this is giving human trafficking to me. Wining and dining a woman only to ask her to go to some place far away from her support system and anyone she knows? And then he immediately leaves when you don't take the bait? Yeah he's rotating his own plates and if you're going to give him a hard time he's just found to pursue a naiver woman.
>Either he died or there's some other explanation or he's just a psychopath.
Stop looking for outrageous explanations like he died or was abducted by aliens. You know men invite you to hotels for sex, right? He was your average LVM looking to get laid. They're often indistinguishable from psychopaths.
>Just sharing because it hurts
Why? He's a stranger. Men have to prove themselves to you long before you ever give a shit about their opinion.
Do what you want with the jacket. Personally, I'd sell or donate it. Don't waste time overthinking this. He gave up the jacket when he ghosted you and fired himself from your life.
Sounds like you dodged a major bullet there, missy! Good job! 💕
As for the jacket, if you don't like it, sell it. That's what I've learned from FDS that I think is super awesome, lol. Who needs an ex's stuff when you can just get cold hard cash from it? 💎
This sounds shady as hell. You dodged a bullet I hope you start celebrating asap!
In his head his did this huge thing (invited you to FL), how dare you turn his offer down?
His ego is bruised. He is probably enraged.
Women block and delete because they want to escape verbal/emotional/physical abuse etc. Men block because they are enraged, and want to have revenge on you. They know it´ll hurt and confuse you. He is getting what he wants now, because you are using your time on it...
He did you a favour.
Of course it hurts. But think, what if you had contuined dating him? It wouldnt have ended well.
Remind yourself of who you are, be sad for a bit, then pick yourself up. And keep it moving.
I have the nicest leather bomber jacket from a similar sounding scrote. Good thing you didn’t travel with him alone like that. At best, he expected to have sex with you all weekend and ghost you when y’all got back, and at worst he planning planning to pimp/traffic you. Bullet dodged. You’ll get better at this as you go along. If he’d been actually interested in you, he’d have said, “Well, maybe someday when we know each other better we could go to Florida?” Not an immediate pouncing upon you after one date like a hungry lion.
There is a 99% chance of him being a sex trafficker
Wait. Did you actually give him your info??