.png)
Went out with this guy a few times over the summer. Seemed like a decent dude. Does very well for himself. Smart. Educated. But, just gave the barest minimum. He would ask to see me maybe once a week, but would have ZERO communication in between dates. I tried. Like, no texts, no calls. Nothing. It always felt very business-like. If you can‘t take the time to get to know me outside of our dates, it’s obvious you only give a shit about proximity to my body. Fuck that.
I always turned down his desire to give gifts—not looking for a sugar daddy and I’m not going to put myself in a position where you feel like I “owe” you anything.
Not a single peep from this fucker since August. I left him on read the last time he hinted around “seeing” me again. Got this message tonight. WHY DOES EVERY MAN EVER THINK WE ARE LEGIT JUST SITTING AROUND WAITING FOR THEM TO COME BACK INTO OUR LIVES??? Newsflash, fuckers…if we wanted you there, you’d know. No need for the damn fishing expeditions.
When I was younger, I used to follow a dating coach that would call this kind of behavior "Putting coins in the parking meter", cause that's literally what they are doing.
They put a coin in there from time to time in order to keep their spot available in your life. No thanks. They probably do it with a bunch of women, thinking they've got some kind of harem available to them.
Because don’t the “sexbots” power down between uses? You’re staying on when the men aren’t using you?!?
When I was in college, a guy I met ONCE in the first year, asked me out for coffee in the final year, on TEXT. (Sheeesh) I declined politely. He took that as a cue to text me about books (He knew I liked reading) for a few weeks after that and didn't stop till I shut him down firmly. I thought the chapter was closed. TWO YEARS later, he messages me again with a "Hey" at 11pm in the night. I had discovered FDS by then, so I wasn't even curious as to what he had to say. I simply blocked. (I never had his number either, I recognized his whatsapp profile pic- he had obtained mine from mutual classmates)
Also, I remember the first (and last) time I met him, we were auditioning for a writing club. He told me that I wasn't like the other girls there- which even before FDS I took as a red flag. The other girls there were smart, in charge and confident and wayyyy above his league. I was quiet and in the background, which he probably took as under-confidence (I was not, lol)
They can't check in if they're blocked.
This sentence tells me all I need to know lol. He knows he fucked up and is hoping you might remember him.
There's nothing deep to read into as to why they check in with the same women months or years later. They're bored, lonely, and/or horny, and so they are sending a mass text to every woman he knows or used to know in hopes of one "yes" out of it. That's it. Nothing deeper than that.
Block him.
"Hey" he said! HEY! The audacity. I'm not kidding! I fucking hate "hey". Because that "hey" means "by any chance were you just thinking that youd like to suck my dick while getting nothing in return, no strings attached? 😝" Shove your "hey"s up your ass, scrotes.
Oooh Yess. They’re all coming out of the woodwork for the holidays. Hell, they don’t even need a holiday to be audacious! I reassure myself that these guys’ dating prospects are dreadful when they return with a ghastly ‘hey’ months after their cameo role in our lives.
Just a few moments back, I had a guy "check up" on me. This guy literally came back after years, should have blocked him that many years ago, itself. He wanted to know if I was still "available", and when I rejected him, he straight up called me aunty, while looking like a rotten ballsack, himself 🤣
I don't know I would either take the free gifts and give nothing in return or just block him (probably the better option).
My ex boyfriend ghosted me in January 2014 after I spent Christmas and NY's with him and his family. Then he contacted me on Instagram in February 2020. SIX YEARS later. I actually responded back, "You have some nerve to contact me after how you treated me. Go back to Hell where you came from, you evil minion of Satan!" Then I blocked him again. There is no more mercy for men ever coming from me again.