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He said that not all men have the power to oppress or do something about their problems. He said it’s complicated and that’s where intersectionality comes into play.
Well yeah no shit not everyone has the power to do something about it, but it’s up to the men in power to help them with specific male issues. Not women.
I’m so upset right now. I told him that I can’t bring myself to care about any mens issues right now. At least he didn’t protest against that and told me I don’t have to care 🤷🏻♀️
But I have a feeling he’s still judging me for it and that makes me anxious.
Edit: He’s usually great when it comes to validating my feelings on patriarchy etc and also has helped me in ways other therapists have not. I don’t want to change therapists.
I’m just upset about this particular session.
Get a female therapist, one that's not a lib feminist. There's literally no reason to see a male therapist, especially when only a few of them actually empathize with women's issues
Fire him and get yourself a female therapist. My therapist is a woman and they just GET IT. Living a more women-centered life has saved my sanity in so many ways it's not even funny.
Why would you go to a man for therapy? Get a woman.
I get that it's a pain to change therapists. It's a pain to go therapist-hunting and find a good fit. Believe me, I get it; I put it off for a few years until Fate stepped in and I simply had to start somewhere. HOWEVER. You keep saying that he's "usually pretty good." So let's say he's, I dunno, 70 percent good. The thing is, there's almost certainly a therapist out there who is closer to 100 percent good (for you). It sounds like you're settling for this one because you don't think you'll find another one that's even 70 percent. And that just can't be true. Soooo..... Imagine having a therapist who helps you in ways that other therapists have not.... who helps you navigate the issues you haven't addressed in the past.... etc.... but who ALSO "gets" women's issues and is preferably a woman. Because there's one out there. Wouldn't that be worth the inconvenience of the hunt?
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if you don't feel comfortable with your therapist, find a new one. i know it's difficult to click with a therapist. it's someone you'll be vulberable with and that can be scary sometimes. but it is imperative that you can actually trust this person because they'll be dealing with your mental health.
finding a female therapist might work - or not. i've only ever had female therapists, some good, some bad. the only really good one got too expensive and she won't even text me back when i try to set and appointment to talk about something specific (since i can't pay her for frequent appts). the others seemed to understand me, but they didn't really help me with my issues. and the last one was a trainwreck. i talked to her about my issues with sex and she said "you are the one who puts yourself in those situations" (when i shared traumatic experiences) and "you seem to have a very rigid pre-conceived idea of men. not all men are terrible." needless to say that was the last time i ever talked to her.
The term Intersectonality was coined by a black woman, Dr. Crenshaw. It has to deal with oppressed groups. Men are not an oppressed class. That male therapist can take his garbage and shove it up his butt
I also suggest seeing a female therapist. If you do stay with your current therapist, then I suggest not bringing up patriarchy, men's privilege, women's oppression, dating, etc.
Edit: I've also seen many female therapists that I would NOT talk to about the above issues because I wouldn't be able to handle their responses either. It can be difficult finding a therapist that really gets you.
If you are posting on FDS about frustration with a therapist... then maybe he isn't helping? Like it must have taken a lot or emotional upheaval around it
Your therapist shouldn't drive you to vent on online forums? Or maybe I just see things differently