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Those of you who may have read my post history know that, on a past trip of mine, my friend abandoned me on our trip and acted super insecure and low value. I embarked on a solo trip this month and, trying to put the past trip behind me, planned to meet up with a different friend of mine from college (5 years ago now) for a couple days at the end.
Man, I totally now feel that this was a mistake. I think since college, especially due to her conservative ex-boyfriend, she has picked up some conservative and anti-feminist values. I'm shocked.
I had been discussing my recent ex with her, and her response was that I probably need to "compromise" and go 50-50 with him if I want our relationship to work. What kind of advice is this 😂
And also, going 50-50 is not any kind of compromise if that's what the man wants already.
The next day, we were walking down busy streets and I told her how I noticed that while walking, most men will move out of the way for other men, but a lot of them will not move out of the way for me, a woman. (If you google this, it's a well-known phenomenon. But I know I don't have to convince you ladies). And I often noticed myself moving even if I was already not taking up that much space, walking on the right side next to a wall, etc. So I told her I have started consciously trying to not move out of the way for any man. And I have gotten SLAMMED into by men who are taller and bigger than me because they were expecting that I would be the one to move out of their path.
Her response: "I feel like you have too much expectations of the other gender and it's gonna always cause you problems."
Huh?? I have expectations that men will watch where they're going?!
I let it go in the moment but after a couple hours, sat down with her and politely told her that her comment bothered me, it hurt my feelings, and I also felt that she was talking about my dating life, not just this sidewalk thing. She admitted she was. She went onto say that women are too entitled, complain too much, expect too much special treatment, and that if we want equal rights, we should expect to be treated equally. She told me about a YouTube video that was a parody of the Titanic where instead of children and women being saved first, it's children and men, and women were left to drown - she thought it was hilarious 🤨🤨🤨🤨
She also told me she feels I have changed since college and become "more aggressive" and implied she didn't like this. I would hope that I've changed in 5 years! She said "maybe it's because you are in an Ivy League grad school". My school is not even Ivy League lmaoooo but I guess she's too ignorant to realize that?
This all happened yesterday and we have been spending today apart. I'm honestly considering changing hotel rooms at this point and just leaving her to explore this city solo. For context we will be separating on Sunday anyway. Thought of this last night but it was 10 pm already.
Idk what do you guys think? Would that be too dramatic? I just feel like I'm losing friends due to suddenly seeing they're low-value and now it's happening again 😢
Update: she just sent me this message because I told her this morning to not leave her phone ringer on all night 😂😂😂😂
I came back and left to a new hotel and blocked her on everything. Good riddance. She was surprised that I was actually leaving after telling me to. Did she seriously expect me to put up with this 😂
Wowza shes insecure lol. She thinks you're better than her, so shes pretending that you act like an asshole to justify it. Also I love how antifeminists are 100% still libfems.(because men like it. Its literally mens rights activism after all) Like ShoeOnHead. She'll make fun of the overweight blue hairs but not the withered onleyfans woman messaging peoples husbands, or the women who wear dog collars in public and clean one night stands kitchens - because that's her, lol.
You're gonna have to cut her off. She has already expressed that you having any standards or boundaries or expectations hurts her, somehow. (Hello, the more dudes you reject the more options for her. What's the problem? Oh, that's it. She picks rejects and doesn't want anyone to notice 🙄)
I'm gonna take a wild guess that's shes pro prostitution and porn. I'd leave her be. She thinks having female friends will hurt her chances with lvm anyways.(honestly with her mindset, why tf did she even want to meet up with you? A moment of loneliness between tinder disappointments?) Its not your job to therapist or agony aunt an incel.
Hahahaha. Ya, wouldn’t it be hilarious if all the men let all the women die and then circle-jerked as the species died out! So funny.
Anyways…
I say do what you want. Honestly I wouldn’t be talking to this human again.
You‘re going to lose friends when you level up because you’re going to get tired of trying to drag them up to your level. It’ll be lonely for a bit then better as you meet more women like you.
I hope the rest of your trip goes well!
You should ask her if she thinks what's going on in Iran is hilarious, or if what happened in Afghanistan was hilarious. Then block her lol
What is scarier is men do that behavior in their cars as well. It happens all the time when men attempt dangerous merges with very little room instead of waiting patiently for their turn because they expect the woman in the car to slow down and let them in. It makes me so mad but its a dangerous game of chicken that is not worth sacrificing my car for. Good for you for not moving on the street though!
I need to vent about the Titanic thing. I've seen the video you mentioned and it makes me fucking livid. Titanic was literally the ONLY time in history that the "women and children" first rule was actually followed, and it had to be enforced with guns. And I'm using "literally" correctly here, it's not hyperbole, there is not a single documented case of women being put into lifeboats first other than the Titanic. Most ships that sank didn't have a single female survivor. Let that sink in for a moment. This isn't because women were banned from sea travel, that's mostly a myth and only ever applied to military vessels in the first place. In sinkings were some women did survive, the vast majority drowned. Women had the LOWEST survival rate of any demographic in sinkings until the 1960's when those rules (which were never obeyed anyway) were retired. It's almost like women's survival improved when we stopped being treated like some else's fucking property.
God forbid I want the man who loves me and treats me goooooood.
Ew. No. That’s the kind of dangerous pick-me you don’t want around on a trip. Good riddance. Nicely handled.
I’m not proud of myself for saying this but I told her she’s the biggest idiot I’ve ever met 😅😅
Your friend is garbage. You are better off without her low energy in your life, pulling you down. I have recently let a friend go as well, because given the choice between her friends and low-value dick, she will always pick dick. Low value friends pull us down, and we don't need the weight as we ascend.
As for the sidewalk thing, try this tip--it never fails for me.
When walking, look at a point far in the distance. Don't look at the people around you. Don't look down, except to occasionally check that you are on an unobstructed path. And when you do look down, just move your eyes, don't bend your neck to look down.
The sea of people will part before you, and your getting slammed by brutes will go down. Of course, there will always be those brutes who look for a reason to be big lummoxes where a woman is concerned, but we can't change that.
This is how men walk. Women walk with a much shorter field of vision, because we are too goddamned considerate of others---which allows people to think that they can barge right into it. When looking afar, we are preemptively "claiming" our walking space, and people pick up on this subconsciously, so don't enter it as much.
Try it and see the difference!
Oof. I would definitely change rooms. Y'all are on two completely different pages and that's fine. You don't need to convince her of anything, but i think if she were a real friend she would be more considerate of your feelings. Just wish her the best and move on; you deserve better company.
Here is the actual footage!!
Didn't you see the male hand behind her? Did no strings appear from the sky? Pay attention, lady!😄
That Titanic parody - the point of it is to make fun of men who whine about not getting first dibs on lifeboats, right?
And the point just went over her head, right?
I never heard of this video before, but I hope that's what it's for. 😆
Because I'm trying to picture what a video like that would look like, and the men don't exactly come off covered in glory. 😂
Even if some men made that video to push men's rights, it would be a self-own on their part. "Wow, you really showed us by showing everyone what a bunch of weenies you are!" 🤣
So guys after the trauma of this wore off, I’m now realizing that when I came back to our hotel room to move out at 3 pm, she was there and looked very dressed up - more like dressed for a night out at a bar rather than a day of sight seeing. I’m now wondering if she had a tinder date planned and that’s the real reason she asked me to leave?!
i feel like she’s jealous of you so honestly just drop that friendship. it’s for the best. i graduate in 2 semesters and i’ve cut ties with the party pick me girls