Finally broke up with my bf, feeling devastated

Well done, the hardest part is over with. Please make sure you block him on everything so that he can't reconnect and suck you back in. Scrote is about to learn how much he really depended on exploiting your company, and the loneliness will become almost unbearable. It's not a matter of if, but when, he contacts you again to "check in" or "talk about it" and you don't want or need that contact, because it will delay your healing or worse, manipulate you into taking him back.

Block, delete, and do not give him any avenues by which to contact you. It's not an act of hatred towards him, though he may try to paint it that way to your friends and family. Blocking exes is an act of self-love. If you were addicted to a harmful drug, you wouldn't keep a bit of it around for old time's sake even as you tried to abstain completely. You'd throw it all away and go somewhere safe where you knew you couldn't get your hands on it while you were detoxing. This is no different.

Stay strong. ❤️

It really does hurt 🤍 I’m so sorry you’re going through this *sending love and hugs* It takes time to toughen up. My first time of letting go of a medium value guy was awful. I was hurting for months. It gets easier when you spot them early and can shy away before you get too emotionally invested. Hang in there, and don’t loose faith in knowing you deserve better. You don’t want a guy who’s counting pennies, you want one that’s gonna have your back down the line. Put it like this: Penny counters are not the ones who go out of their way to find proper and expensive treatment for your vaginal tears after giving birth to hi’s babies. Or any other similar problem you might go through later in life. When you want to buy that expensive coffin for your deseased mom because «she loved mahogny and it means a lot to you», or extra tutoring for your kids, he won’t be supporting you. Being generous isn’t ultimately about money. It’s about health care, emotional support, child care, community, support in every kind of way. Because he understands that your wellbeing matters more than money. Women are hearts of families, and he wants to keep that heart happy and healthy. Stay strong, take care of yourself and treat yourself. Be kind to yourself and just treat yourself as good as you want any man to ♥️ It get’s easier with time I promise.

I'm happy you left him but also sorry that you're feeling hurt. FDS is never about how to become an unemotional, heartless vampire, but about having strong healthy boundaries in general. He breached your boundaries and that never bodes well for a future between the two of you, hence the need for a break up. You have every right to feel devastated and if you need to cry, cry.

While it is possible that he has a different view on money than you do, it's a bit like how some people lie when they say, "I'm not ready for a relationship right now." Because if tomorrow comes and they meet the love of their life? They will become ready for a sudden. If your ex meets a woman that he thinks is the one, his little money issue would suddenly vanish or at least not be so severe, since he won't mind pampering her.

You deserve a man who wouldn't blink at a receipt and enjoy lavishing you. It will hurt now, but you'll thank your past self someday.

Congrats and well done at putting yourself first. You won't regret this, it's just the tip of the iceberg. This was a tangible data point you couldn't ignore — and you didn't. Good work. It'll get easier with some time. Just don't get hoovered back in with future faking and apologies

i know it hurts a lot and i hope you feel better soon. work on your recoverym sis.

and remember: it was disingenuous of him to ask you for the money after the trip. he could have talked to you about this before and you could have reached to an agreement. but no. he just decided it would be better to caught you off guard. "she won't break up over this. i'm too important in her life." welp! he was wrong!

he tried to manipulate you. this isn't even about the money for me. it's about communicating and being honest with you SO.

you're doing a great job keeping your boundries.

We become good at cutting people off by vetting early and not sleeping with them and having rotations. When we make men our "boyfriends" without vetting them properly and without them having proven themselves to us for months, we deeply regret it. Cutting people off is not easy, this is why the rules exist.

Good for you.

Yeah, second both of your comments 🤍 For me it’s a lot about the physical aspect. It’s difficult to have that kind of closeness with girlfriends (although possible). For me it got easier when I got a «cuddle buddy» in my scrotation. No f’ing just a movie and a cuddle from time to time. Or when I feel down I can go to him and get a proper hug, that being it.