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I am in therapy, so let's get that out of the way.
But I've been really down after a disappointing vacation recently, and keep feeling like I don't have anything going for me. The thing that made me saddest was that my only recourse was to complain on Google about both tour company and ranch. It was a horse riding holiday in Turkiye, so not cheap, and I was promised a strong intermediate to advanced level ride in a group of strong intermediate to advanced riders with lots of cantering. Instead, I was stuck going on hilly trails with this gen Z couple on an extended date. They didn't even know how to ride, though the boy ponced a lot about playing polo. (That means nothing. He could be a beginner player, and he certainly didn't show any riding skills or knowledge.) It was awful, feeling cheated of my holiday because of the bad riding and because of the crappy couple.
I just have come back feeling like nothing goes right. How do I shake this off?
I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling down currently but I want you to know that you are such a wonderful addition to this community and I look forward to your posts and comments. Things will get better and there is always the idea of trying new hobbies or some solo adventures in your home town?
I'm sorry your holiday didn't go well. The last time I went on a trail ride that was supposed to be "advanced," it was a lot like what you're describing and I spent much of the time trying to keep the girl behind me from letting her horse bolt off the trail because she was freaking out and sawing on the reins so hard. Poor horse! 😓
Sometimes I just feel blah, and it can be triggered by an annoying or disappointing experience, or it can pop up out of nowhere. The biggest cure I've found is some sort of exercise (a run, a long walk, yoga, etc.) followed by an Epsom salt bath and then a long nap or good night's sleep. The magnesium in the Epsom salts is like a tranquilizer and sleep fixes everything. Feel better, lady!
What a brutal way to spend your vacation, so sorry to hear this. Honestly, I'd be pissed and disappointed too. You paid for something and received not that thing. The tour company has no reason to be annoyed at you. They didn't hold up their end of the transaction.
When it feels like nothing is going right, coming out of that slump either means a concerted effort to be positive (ie gratitude journal) or succumb and feel sorry for yourself. But set a time limit to it, after which you switch to positivity
That sucks, I'm sorry to hear that the thing you were looking forward to the most was ruined. :( I enjoy your posts here though so I am glad you have this forum so we can help you feel better about it hopefully! Do you like to do anything creative, especially anything where you get an end physical or digital thing that you've made? Being in a Flow State while listening to my favorite tunes, and having something to show off and feel good about after I'm done usually sets my perspectives straight on life.
Aww mahn so sorry to hear this. It sounds like you were really looking forward to this and I think your description of it is so lovely and idyllic. I think you can set a deadline for feeling down about this. You can process your disappointment, you needed a lift and were let down. And when that deadline reaches, look for something else that lifts your spirits. Maybe even start a piggbank for a much better vacation. The GenZ couple sound so annoying😩. If you have other hobbies you can enjoy locally sign up for them as well.
think about other experiences you've had that were good and also about future experiences. it didn't work this time, it might work in the future when you try a different horse riding holiday. or when you do a completely different activity in a completely different country during a completely different holiday.
it's common for us to generalize our life based on a bad experience. remember that's just what the brain does and that this one bad experience doesn't define your whole life. you can have other great moments to the point where this crappy holiday will just be a laugh one day.
Hey, just wanted to say that it is terrible that your vacation didn’t go so well. Horse riding sounds like a lot of fun, so it’s even worse that you spent your money, promised to be with skilled riders, only for it to be ruined by the couple. How in the world did they get away with that? At least you complained about Google about the companies, as what if something went wrong with one of you or the horses? Pretty sure skilled and experienced riders should know these things and since the couple wasn’t then who knows what might happened if something wrong (like one of the horses was acting up).
On the terms of feeling that nothing goes right, maybe plan yourself your own pamper day? To just stay at home and do whatever you want, not having to worry about people letting you down or something going wrong. You can do whatever you find relaxing - taking a nice bath, sleeping in, eating your favorite food, anything really. Then another thing you can do is think about a couple of things that bring you happiness everyday, and maybe write it down to remember. I am trying to do this little habit to remind myself of the good things in my life when things don’t go as planned. Like this morning I wrote in my notes that I was happy for having a nice relaxing last day to the weekend, glad that I am working well on my goals, and that October is on its way (I’m a BIG fan of Halloween 🎃). It’s simple but it reminds me of stuff to look forward to, what I accomplished, and what is to come for the day.