Was there anything on this in the handbook? I can’t quite remember … I’m saving myself for marriage for personal reasons, it’s an unmovable fact. But I’ve always been awkward about when and how to tell a guy? Obviously I’m not gonna bring it up the first date, but when is it appropriate to? Anyone have some insight on thi?
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Honestly I would mention it before the first date and I wouldn’t go out with a guy that wouldn’t be OK with it in the first place. I have other dealbreaker‘s like this and I find that wasting my time with men who are not going to be OK with it has done me a huge disservice.
I think you could just mention really early on (1st date ish) that you see yourself being married someday. Within the context of talking about your goals/future/etc, or whatever you’re comfortable with and see what he says. I think that’s plenty of information until he turns the conversation sexual or tries something. You can keep conversation non sexual until then, which would make sense, since you are waiting for marriage.
When he gets pushy about sex. If he tries to act like he wants to get married and is panicky about it, dump him. If he tries to coerce you into sex, dump him. You don’t need to be the one to mention sex first. Men are obsessed.
Waiting at least 5 dates to mention it would be my advice. I remember seeing another post as well about how to vet for sexual compatibility without having sex. That could also be helpful info down the road.