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I graduated and got my bachelor degree in graphic design a few weeks ago. This was one of my goals for this year and I'm extremely happy and proud of myself. Career wise I'm doing fine, I got a promotion recently and I'll be specializing next year.
My dusty ex, the one I dumped 3 years ago after he hurt me time and time again, texted me today to congratulate me on my achievement and (surprise, surprise) to apologize for the pain he caused me when we were dating. He even had the nerve to say "you didn't deserve that". Bitch of course I didn't, I was 19 and it was my first real relationship. I entered that relationship with the purest of intentions only to be traumatized in return. We were together for only 1 year but I can say that I had never been more depressed than during those 12 months. Pure suffering, but I managed to move on and focus on my career and studies. Now he's dating another girl but somehow still stalks my instagram page (I hadn't blocked him) and has the audacity to text me. Like wtf?
If any male lurker is reading this: if you're really sorry, if you feel really guilty about the pain you caused to a woman, the best thing you can do for her is to LEAVE HER ALONE. Don't reappear after many years to aPoLOGizE, she doesn't need it. My ex did this because he feels guilty and even sorry for the vulnerable 19 year-old girl he used to know. I'm not that girl anymore and he's not the same boy either (he's probably worse).
This is just a rant ladies, but my conclusion is: focus on your goals, career, family and friends and block him EVERYWHERE if you still haven't. Don't let his half-assed apologies disrupt your day, they're never sincere. And again, they'll come back even after years, even when they're in a relationship, even when married, even when they're geriatric, they'll come back but that doesn't mean anything good.
Lastly, if you're a scrote reading this: DIE MAD.
EDIT: woke up today and noticed he deleted the message🤡 Cowards will be cowards, amirite?
My first (ex)boyfriend (old ugly pornsick scrote) came back after ten(!) years. He maybe realized that he was a fucking piece of shit nobody wants anymore and that he shouldn't have fucked it up between us. Pretty sure he is also in a new relationship. Men are like fucking dogs. They want to have sex with every woman possible and always leech for the next one. Such disturbed creatures. 🤢💩
Yes. Their words are never for you, only for themselves. They just want to have the last word and write the narrative to make themselves and their ego feel better
Like roaches, they come out of the woodwork when they get a whiff of your happiness and achievement. Way to affirm he’s still a loser, stalking your page. Pour a glass of wine and cackle. You won. Love your username too! 😂
Hoovering is such a narcissist thing. Like clockwork they get back in touch, years later. It’s cray.
He's just using your recent success as a way to try to get one more chance to be with you in bed (To cheat on his current gf) and you're right, he's not sorry. Not one bit. He knew exactly what he did while he was dating you and traumatizing you during those twelve months. Men never make mistakes or accidentally hurt a girl severely; the only good reasons a man can make you cry is either because:
He is making you so damn happy with something he's saying or doing that it makes you cry in pure bliss and joy.
He's very sick or hurt and you're scared you're going to lose him or that he's suffering tremendously and you're helpless about it.
He's crying about something horrible that happened to him or someone else he's close to and seeing him cry makes you cry too.
He died.
Otherwise, a man that makes you cry for something that can easily be avoidable, is a man that must be dumped and blocked permanently.
Good on you for keeping strong, OP, and congrats on your graduation!
He's selfish. He wanted your special moment to be about him.
The more men who are ignored an not taken back after fucking up will help the cause of women everywhere. Men KNOW that women have to get married and have children within a certain amli of time, and men don't. And men use this against women their entire lives. Mote and more men need to be met with disdain and being completely ignored after they mess up. No more forgiveness, and if they knew they'd never have another chance if they fucked up once, they'd certainly think twice about hurting us.
Mind you, even if you have him blocked everywhere...they WILL find a way to contact you. That's how pathetic they are.
Fortunately, the only ex I'm worried about coming back has both a restraining order and knows basically the entire county will come after him if he dares try it. Everyone else has no way to get a hold of me unless it's through my family, and after what happened with my ex they will never give it out.
But some rando I went on one date with will still try his luck over text now 5 years later ..... never again will I give out my phone number.