Enjoy being single over 30.

Funny, this post really matches something I heard today.

Relationships came up and single-over-30 me dared to say "I wouldn't even consider someone who doesn't add to my life and makes it better in every way. Anything less is not worth the time and effort spent on accomodating another human being's needs in my life".

The reaction: "Wow, that's pretty selfish. Relationships are work and require sacrifices, you know? It's no wonder you are single."

I have enough work in my life already and sacrifices don't sound appealing, so no thank you. They really don't make their slavery sound great, do they? I mean... how can they not hear it themselves?

Absolutely. I think about what my life would be like if I’d married the man I considered marrying in my 20s. Fortunately, I don’t have to rely on my imagination too much, because I can look at how things worked out for his subsequent marriage. I’d be divorced, in the same boat now, but with a few kids I didn’t want, and felt pressured to have.

I still live in a fairytale that men are great like in movies. Those men are from a high caliber while men in the modern world are a bunch of children you need to clean up after. Maybe it's just acting but I've seen footage of 1940 to 1960 and the way men approach women or declare their love seems very manly, they let you know that they want to spend a lifetime with you while men in this day and age catcall and hook up for sex, they act like the real world is like an onlyfans platform where men are entitled to a woman's time just because they want it. While in the 1940 clips a man keeps on wondering if he's worthy. I had one idiot claim that he wants to live with me and he'll cook and keep the house clean while I'm out earning money. That's definitely a hobosexual. I don't even respond to most men because all they seem to prioritize is what they can take from you. If I can live in someone's house for free and I only have to cook and maintain the house then it would be the easiest life ever but men can't even do that. They call putting their laundry in the basket for you and warm up a can of soup in the microwave cooking and doing their part. I don't need them in my house.

Everyday I wake up with silence. I sleep in whenever I feel the need to, stay up late on a whim. Life can't get any more tranquil avoiding men to ruin your life.

Oh honey, I see some of my peers who are married or dating and I just

I genuinely wish to enjoy being single. And truthfully, I do, but I just forget that I am having a great time.

This mostly happens when I see couple pictures and hear about couple related things from my friends who are in relationships and marriages.

My solution- if no common topic, I avoid talking to them If I want to maintain a relation.

But this is only because seeing couple makes me miserable knowing that I have tried my best and I am a decent person that takes care of her responsibilities on time and sincerely, yet been toyed with, lied to and abused.

Listening to details of their lives from my friends with partners, I realise that only their pictures are happy. Their partners look great only in carefully edited and selected pictures. I'm not missing out on much, rather, anything.

But I still need reminders like this post here. Thank you so much @Galaktoboureko89 for this post. :)

Thank you for reminding me.