Does anyone here have a dating rotation built up?

I tried to do this when I was actively looking but I couldn’t even find ONE that was decent enough to start a rotation lol

Men say women have “so many options” but we don’t. I can’t find even one good man to date, but I don’t need a scrotation in a literal sense. Hang out in friendship groups and assess the men that way.

I'd be interested in a story like this too, because I haven't heard much about making a scrotation work in practice. Frankly, even the best women I've known don't have multiple decent suitors lined up at any given moment. seems it would be quite a large effort to get yourself into so many events, spaces, etc. where there's enough opportunities for good(!) men to offer a date. I personally wouldn't even know where to begin.

I briefly tried for a month by going out a lot and OLD. My takeaways are:

- the big positive is that it is massive confidence booster. Main reason is that it allows you to be confident in your boundaries because you can test them simultaneously on several guys. See this as A/B testing haha

- as other mentioned, to be able to find enough decent dates without chasing is exhausting. And extremely time- consuming. Not sustainable long term. Also you realise very quickly that men's attention is cheap and you get exposed to a lot of LVM.

Overall i would recommend it for a short period of time because it did make me much more confident in my boundaries and not value male's attention as I used to

I dont see how it is sustainable long term though because it is emotionally draining and you basically dont get anything else done

A rotation, to me, is more of a mindset of abundance and never settling, and less of a literal practice because my dating pool is intentionally narrow. I’m picky AF.

Cindy Lu's "The 4 Man Plan" is probably the best example of having the lived experience of rotation dating.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=4KWL1V0ix_U

The “scrotation” (ugh) stuff in FDS is unhelpful and in my view should be removed or rewritten. There are simply not that many high value men out there who are also single. You could keep up a rotation of dates, as one ex-friend did, to keep herself busy from obsessing over one particular man she was serious about. However, she was still wasting her time on suitors who were likely inappropriate. She was the kind of person who managed her emotions by bypassing them almost entirely - giving herself zero free time to think, obsess, etc. She was either working, out on a date, or doing some sort of self improvement activity. From the outside she would have been following FDS by the book. Did it work? She ended up with a jerk, so no. In my view she did not take the time to reflect and process the pain she was going through, she just kept her “scrotation” rolling until she got what she wanted. But what she wanted might have changed drastically if she had sat with her feelings.

Men keep up (or aspire to maintain) a rotation, but they're wired differently than women. We should not aim to emulate them.

When I was on OLD, the best way I could practically apply a rotation was by continuing to vet new men and go on more first dates even when I found one that I already liked.

In the past, I would find one and immediately sink my resources into him rather than continuing to keep my options open.

The purpose of a rotation is simply to prevent you from feeling like you need to cling to a certain man, avoid rose-colored glasses or the sunk cost fallacy. If you can’t actually find multiple men to date at the same time (which is so hard because they’re generally all awful), then do whatever you can to avoid commitment, infatuation, getting overly attached, etc. See a guy once a week at the most and live a fun, full life the other six days a week.

I did try this and I ended up losing track of what I was saying to whom and embarrassing myself. Lots of repetitive dates and seeing the same things over and over. All men started to act the same to me so the ones I liked the most dropped off after realizing I'm busy seeing my rotation. The most fun guys in my rotation were LVM but they were fun and distracted me from HVM guys. I was young and stupid and didn't manage my time correctly, looking at dating for fun. Now I'm older I do 2 quality guys max and not actively dating to vet them out. Still, I haven't found one to pass the vetting so I usually drop them

I’ve currently got four men in rotation, at varying levels of maturity and frequency of dates. I did specify to each I’ll be taking my time getting comfortable with them, and I have gotten to a point where I balance being warm and feminine yet difficult to impress and that’s paying dividends. I think subconsciously this rotation gives off the energy that I’m in high demand, without me having to say anything. Two live in the city I’m in, one within a 2h drive and another on the other side of the continent. While I don’t have a clear ‘winner’ in mind yet, I’m taking the approach that as long as I’m enjoying myself and the benefits vastly outweigh any consequences for me I am happy to continue seeing these men. This is also the first time I’ve successfully implemented waiting out the physical aspect and I don’t think it’s a coincidence that it’s having a positive impact. For the spread: One I met in person at a bar who happens to have people in my circle who vouch for him; one is an ex where the relationship ended due to extenuating circumstances, not relating to him as a HVM; another I met on Hinge who has been treating me quite well on creative and thoughtful dates; the final one is newer but also has some promise, and I met him off of Bumble. I’m attracted to all of them in order of listing, for those curious. I’ve gone on numerous other dates in between and had to weed out some awful people (stingy, clearly only wanting sex, personality of dry paint, etc.), but have tried to be ruthless and picky upfront to waste as little time as possible.

They’re all trash so finding even 1 is like a needle in a hay stack

Honestly, I just can't be bothered. Even the best men I know would all be a compromise. I have a career, a house reno, a PhD, a dog, friends & family to put first. When I do have some time to myself, i'd much rather spend it in the bath.

I was about to post "I can't even find one guy" but everyone else beat me to it lol.

I couldn't even get a low value man if I wanted to.

I am going to try an apply the same principle when I am going back to dating. I am wondering the same thing as you. I can find one good guy, how will I find several ones?

Kara King talks about this in her book, "The power of the pussy" I recommend you read it. She says that it also VERY important to have a dating rotation. But she says they dont all have to be superhandsome or whatever. I dont remember her excat advise, but read it, and you´ll find it.

I'm scared of letting any man close to me. I feel I am simultaneously super aloof and super needy all at once. I feel so love and touch starved that I feel the second I meet someone I actually vibe with, I'll immediately throw myself at them, so I just keep myself alone. :::Sigh:::