So I've noticed a lot of guys use that term when referring to close male friends, and over time it started to not sit right with me. There's just something about it that screams "male exclusivity" and patriarchy.
Maybe I'm just being nit-picky?
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Similar to when they call themselves "The boys"... Hanging with "the boys", "me and the boys". Meanwhile "the boys" are in their 30s and too old to be calling themselves "boys". This screams scrote/misogynist to me.
I just hate the way it sounds. Girls with guy friends say they get called everything from dude to bro. So, I wouldn't worry about any male exclusivity. I don't like to be called bro, buddy, bruh (dude is okay). I would never fuck someone that calls me those things. I hate being treated like a friend that you would chest bump by a romantic interest.
I always thought it sounded childish. Why don't they just call their friends, "friends"? Although, I get a little annoyed at some women who refer to their female friends as "girlfriends" just because that word has different usage in a non-platonic way. The only time I have used "buddy" is for a pet, or a child. That's it.
Once I tried to point out that "dude" and "bro" isn't gender neutral and a lot of men got real mad about it. "But it's used that way!!!" But that doesn't mean it's gender neutral. And I'm not your bro or a dude.
Honestly if a guy does it once in a while I don't care, no big deal, but if it's a constant thing or if I get called that, or bro, or dude on a regular basis, especially by someone I'm supposed to be in a romantic/sexual relationship with, I'm eventually going to get irritated by it.
I called my Old Dog “buddy” but that was a14-year relationship, and almost his whole life.
My son calls his gerbils his buddies in his little pre-pubescent voice. Whenever I hear adult men use the word I think of my kid calling out to his pets.
I always thought it was wierd how some men exclusively call their male friends their "buddies". It's like they're avoiding the word "friend". I think it's because "buddy" is more casual and vague, while "friend" is more affectionate and personal. Basically, "friend" is too feminine for some men who are insecure in their masculinity and scared to have and/or express affection for other men.
Women have friends, men have buddies. Grow up
Edit: The amount of downvotes to this comment totally proves my point, guys. Grow up. You and your buds playing video games all day is pathetic
It's infantilizing, like it sounds like a man-child talking about his other man-children friends