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Hi ladies i hope this doesn't come across as ageist fear-mongering but do you place a limit on the amount of thing you will spend dating before giving up or pulling back significantly?
Dating can be downright tiring and i definitely see myself quitting dating after a certain point or age- like if i am not in a healthy loving relationship with a man who meets my standards by X age i'm out of here and never looking back lol.
And just to clarify, i don't AT ALL think that this is a bad thing or a failure on women's part. The "you cant keep a man" and "hitting the wall" rhetoric spewed at women is just gaslighting masquerading as advice. The vast majority of men leave MUCH to be desired. I also don't think quitting dating means you are automatically bitter or a "man-hater".
To me, choosing to opt out of dating after a certain amount of time just means that you're clear about the amount of time and energy you're willing to invest.
There are so many things to pursue that give life meaning besides searching for "the one" or being partnered. There is also a ton of research showing that single, childfree women are among the happiest and highest earning demographics (at least in the u.s)
And for those who want to be mothers, there is the option of being a single mother by choice if you can afford to do
so.
I quit dating life. Dating life didn't quit me though. I went on with my regular life after a major heartbreak. Stumbled upon FDS, then went on my with my life with better confidence. Only thing, never shared about FDS in real life with anyone. I ended up being followed and courted by people I'd normally not meet. So, not complaining either. Met my husband after I quit dating for real and engaging with people only when they added more value in my life than I add in theirs. I don't care if I get mean in people's eyes, I don't want any kind of relationship anyways to begin with. Let everyone approach me first, then vet who stays. Also, have very great parents to begin with who taught me to be myself. This all may sound a bit privileged and I have often had some conflicts with women here. Again, I did what I had to do to be in a great position in life which was already simpler to begin with. Chose me over any guy ever. Heck, my husband knows how little it would take me dump him without a second thought of my boundary has been breached. Also, getting a PhD isn't just for anyone either or bringing a lot to every table people invite me to. And, I am not exactly going to colonize the next planet but hey I don't have anything of major regret except for an ex. I'd choose my life over every girl I know who married before 25, or is dating some loser etc. Dating, all in all, really matters so less than we are sold off if you took even 10 minutes to think about it.
This is a topic I have thought about a lot myself. I'm only in my early 20s, but I already see how much of a waste of time dating most men is.
I'm not sure if it's a demographic thing, but men rarely approach me in person (I'm conventionally attractive but tall and don't dress provocatively). If I quit all my dating apps, I would have like maybe one date every 3 months, and I live in a major US city. It kind of feels like men have given up on actually dating (as opposed to low effort hookups) before I have.
Just like the course of a relationship is decided by the man (the man should be pushing the relationship towards commitment/marriage), I think about dating in a similar way.
I'll stop dating when men stop pursuing me 🤷♀️. I think I'll be open to a man respectfully pursuing me in a high value way at any age, but I could see how older woman in this group feel differently, because it's still so much work to vet a man.
At 35 I will take a serious look at sperm donors. Then if I have a baby that will be my focus and I feel like it's too dangerous to date men (for my child's safety). No pedos allowed.
Or adoption of an older child but I still think dating is dangerous until children are grown.
So I have like 5 years but I'm very much if it happens it happens about my dating life. I'm not online dating. I make all my major life decisions centered around me being single for life and won't consider a man unless we become engaged and he is well vetted.
No way. I'll always be open to the right man. Unfortunately, I'm 40 and haven't met anyone worth dating in 5 years. But I still will if I find someone worthy of my time. I've already done the marriage and kids thing, so I feel fulfilled in that respect. I'm perfectly happy being on my own, but I do think it would be nice to have a partner again. There are a lot of retired couples at my church who are constantly on vacation. Seems like they're living the dream. But of course, with the wrong person it could be a nightmare.
I haven’t “quit” but I’ve been rejecting men before we can even go on the first date.
That ship has sailed. I'm not even that old but I am tired of people.
In terms of the vetting process, I quit after 3-4 months if there’s no change. I’m very selective and I have to get a general sense of the person, before I call it quits. In terms of dating men in general, I’m thinking of quitting when I hit my late 40’s. By then, my libido is probably gone and I won’t really care about men moving forward. 😂 As I turn 30 in the next few years, I’m also preparing myself for an independent, child-free lifestyle and surrounding myself with like-minded individuals. In addition, I keep myself busy with my many hobbies and career.
Probably when I get married. 😙Unless I can convince my husband to be okay with me continuing dating other people after we are married.😉