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In high school, some of my guy friends used to complain that a lot of the girls had "shallow" interets, i.e. interests only in celeb culture, makeup, fashion, etc and were overly girly. They would tell me how awesome it would be to meet a girl that wasn't shallow and had depth. They wanted girls that were smart, funny, deep-thinking and feminine without being over the up as well as having interests in sports or video games. They longed for girls that were basically tomboys or had a wide range of interests - both in what is stereotypically masculine and feminine - as they felt it would be exciting to meet a girl that was different and had some things in common with them. They would get annoyed with girls who didn't want to go camping because of their fear of insects getting into sleeping bags and tents or girls that didn't want to play sports because they didn't want to get dirty of ruin their manicures.
While I didn't agree with some of the things they didn't like about the girls, I could understand their need for something deeper because nobody with any depth themselves would want to spend their time on meaningless conversations. I remember thinking that these guys were more mature than other high school guys who only liked girls for their looks leaving me with hope that guys could be more well-rounded and deep but alas, I was wrong. Most if not all of these guys ended up pining after the very girls they complained about. They would overlook smart, funny girls who liked anime, sci-fi, sports or video games (i.e. the girls who had their interests/things in common with them) for the very pretty girls who liked makeup, fashion, nail polish and all things girly. The very girls they said lacked depth were who they desired. I remember being disappointed because I realised that these guys were just as shallow and sex-driven as the other guys in high school. I thought that I was surrounded by guys that I could take seriously but I was sadly mistaken.
Has anyone had this experience too? Did you have other experiences that taught you how truly shallow and depthless most guys are? Please share!
Sounds to me like these scrotes wanted to actually fuck their bros, they just couldn't admit it. So they created the "Co0L giRL" which is a female version of their dear homie-sexuals.
Ah, the age-old pasttime of labeling "female interests" as shallow or stupid. Honestly, why be around someone who calls your interests shallow, which is really just code for "inferior". I'll be honest, I didn't really hang around guys in middle school or high school. I had a lot of varied interests and mostly hung out with other girls. I also spent a lot of time on my own as a shy introvert.
Oof. I remember those days. And boys like that. 😒 The sad thing is, also, is that they never really grow up from that mindset, either; they become full grown men who want to go after outrageously hyperfeminine women, especially the ones that flirt the lines between girly and pornographic-like.
Growing up, practicing femininity was hard for me. To this day, years and years after graduating from high school, I am still trying to learn to trust the process of adding some type of femininity to my appearances. It's been slow going, but yeah. Anyway, in high school, I was into wearing sneakers and Chuck Taylors, hoodies about a size bigger than my scrawny body could hold up, and sure I would have long hair but I wasn't overly concerned with the way it looked. It was either in some ponytail, messy bun, or I would straighten it to deal with the frizz and then let it hang like a dead towel. I'd waste time at lunch laughing over fart jokes with the boys, and other girls thought I was... well, stupid and pathetic. Today, I would agree with them, but back then, I just felt lonely and was glad that at least guys would be okay with my presence here and there.
The thing is, though, is that the boys would really pay attention to me once I really strived to look feminine, and really push the makeup thing further and further. I remember having a bf in high school who would talk shit about his ex-gf being incredibly fake and shallow/vapid, because she was really into wearing heavy makeup, elaborate hairstyles, the whole nine yards. Told me that the way I did my makeup was softer and more natural (better?) than her uber heavy eye makeup looks. Can you guess who he immediately run to once we broke up after nearly two years together? 🤗 Suddenly, she was the most beautiful girl he's ever seen in his life, he literally threw a party in her honor, would write on social media how ungodly lucky he feels to have her back. He's never done not one thing like these when we got together. So much for "men like natural beauty better" shit.
It's why also, I would witness guys and men in general screaming at girls/women who state that they are into masculine hobbies and interests, like rock music or video games or STEM fields. Men say they want a woman with depth, but it's not true at all. At best, he wants the best of both worlds: A woman who has the mind and spirt of another man, but has to look ridiculously feminine/pornofied to make up for it so that people won't think he's hiding in the closet if he went out with a more masculine appearing lady. Why do you think men hate short hair on women so much? Or why they get so competitive against women who enjoy having large forearms from powerlifting?
I have two theories: 1) They're homoromantic and have developed sexual feelings towards female-branded commodification (i.e. "femininity" that consists in what you'd look like if you just bought and used a bunch of products marketed to women). If it wasn't for capitalism brainwashing them, they'd probably just be gay. This is why they can't attach to women in a serious, romantic way. I'd imagine this sort of man is the type of person who could genuinely get off to a trans identifying man who "passed" relatively well. 2) They're afraid of losing power in a relationship and liking their partner as much as or even more than their partner likes them back. Accordingly, they pick women who they know they won't respect, because love (and the vulnerability that comes with it) requires basic respect.
Yes! I very much had male coded interests in high school, and no shock and surprise most guys didn't really like or respect me more for it. I had a pretty intense crush on this one guy for years but who I remained friends with; I would draw ANSI art for his BBS (pre internet dial up bulletin board) for free. Pathetic 😂. Anyway, he never reciprocated my feelings (I had asked) and he ended up marrying a girl right out of highschool he had been dating. I was told by mutual friends that her selling point was that she had nice legs and big boobs. I had like zero boobs. But after graduating HS I mostly outgrew my childhood awkwardness, since I could then buy my own clothes and products etc, and escaped my oppressive family and hometown. Maybe about 10-15 years later, she's cheated on him and they divorce. We still sometimes talked occasionally, and he expresses regret about his choice, that he really should have considered me. I don't pity him, and honestly it's for the best since he still lives in our crappy small hometown and has the type of life that I ran far far away from. It's hilarious how men project their own poor choices onto women. They fail at perspective taking and truly believe that the reasons women struggle (should have "picked better") are for the same reasons men struggle. Men are their own worst enemies even while they wage war on women.
I was that tomboy girl who hunted, fished, played 4 sports, sang opera, played piano, and I never had a date in high school or college. Men lie about what they really want which is simply a human sex doll. They don't want a woman with a brain, because that's "intimidating," and they cannot control her once she figures out the true nature of males. Watch what men do and not what they say. Their words are to trick you.
Sci-fi, anime, computer games and watching sports have nothing to do with intelligence. If anything, I’d see them as red flags in men raised by computers and with limited social skills. To me it’s on par with interest in celebrity culture and such.
I dont think much of what anybody thinks or says in highschool has much bearing on who they are long term. Adolescence by its very nature is a tine of great upheaval, experimentation, inner conflict and early, clumsy attempts at forging identity.
Generally speaking, people will gravitate towards those they find physically attractive first, and start culling based on shared values. Shared interests are a bonus. Would the average guy love a beautiful woman that was enthusiastic to watch football or hockey as he is? Or course. Are most men ok with a woman who doesnt care about sports, but gives him the room to enjoy them with his friends? Yeah.
I dont think the boys who told you they preferred ‘deeper girls’ were lying at the time. Who they were at the time was just very much in flux. Much like it is for us girls at that age.
Getting femcel energy with all these male interests you have. Have fun getting concussions in football or buying tacky sports garb. Have fun wasting your life away on video games and hentai lite (anime). I’ll enjoy talking with girlfriends about reality TV relationships while channeling money into women owned businesses 💅🏼 I’m sorry but our interests are just superior to dumb male hobbies.