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She and I had plans for Canada Day. She ended up standing me up and hanging out with a guy I was dating whom I broke up with a month ago and the new women he's been seeing for three weeks, and his best friend.
I asked her to tell me about his new girlfriend, what she was like, and if she could verify this woman's identity to me, if she was who I thought she was, so I could warn her that this guy is abusive.
He sexually assaulted me, and I've since learned he sexually assaulted another woman I know, and he's slashed the tires of a mutual male friend.
Anyhow, my friend's answer was "I'm not getting involved, you're just hurt he has a new girlfriend."
Yeah, I AM hurt he has a new girlfriend BUT I know that it's for the best that I'm not with him anymore.
I should have blocked and deleted and grey rocked but instead I flipped out on her.
Nah, some times flipping out is a good response. She might possibly even learn something from you telling her off.
You did the right thing getting rid of this woman who has no interest in your well-being. She had plans with you but went and hung out with your ex who assaulted you. She can fuck right off.
Anyway, I assume that you’ve blocked and deleted her now.
Yes, you did the right thing.
Any "friend" who remains friends with a man who sexually assaulted you is no friend of yours.
She was never your friend! A friend would never ditch you so she could hang out with your ex and his new partner.
A friend would never side with someone who assaults women
She’s not loyal.
You dodged a bullet.
You have to ask yourself if you saw your higher self get disrespected as much as you did by this one friend would she stay in that friendship? The answer is no
I’m so sorry for your friendship lost, but I hope you learn from this and set your boundaries and standards was up
This woman blew you off in order to meet up with your abuser. That tells you all you need to know. I'd have flipped out on her too, if I had been in your shoes. I strongly advise that you drop this "friend". She actually sounds like she could be dangerous. For all you know, your ex-boyfriend might not be the only abuser that she hangs out with, and if you hang out with her, you'll be in their vicinity.
You were her friend but she was never your friend. Hanging out with and playing devil's advocate for a man who assaulted you?? This woman hates you!
I've had Pickmes who were jealous and hated me try to hang around me because they wanted something from me. The minute I started implementing FDS and calling out bullshit, stopped paying for them, stopped being their personal chauffeur and stopped subsidizing their laziness, they started dropping like flies. I paid for an entire trip to Vegas for my cousin and she was quite vocal about how much she hated it and kept taking diggs at me and occasionally said she would never go back there. Now she's planning to have her 30th birthday in Vegas. Sometimes you need to be upfront and tell people off. Flipping out in the scenario you described is an appropriate and understandable response. Don't doubt yourself.
Fuck that bitch