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I am having a tough time. My previous "relationship" ended badly when I discovered my ex was dating another woman. I was already having a hard time and this made it much worst.
It took me a few months to get back to myself and I don't think about anymore ( unless I'm reminded) but it cost me greatly financially and educationally.
In hindsight I overlooked a couple of red flags that would have been obvious if Ii had faithfully consulted the handbook.
Anyway, I forgived myself and I promised to look after myself better ( the handbook is safely downloaded in my kindle now)
I have decided to change and move to a new bigger city where I can reinvent myself, start fresh, focus on leveling up and when I'm ready, start to date for practise. Following the handbook.
However I'm going home for the holidays and I have a mother obsessed with relationships and marriage and grandchildren. Nothing I do would ever be as good to her as if I get pregnant.
I hate that I will feel the pressure ( and I got a plan b if I don't find a suitable man and I want kids) but still... how do I deal with this? Anybody going through the same?
I can't help but feel that a woman's time is never her own it belongs to men and children that don't even exist.
I’ve been there with my mother-in-law pressuring me about all aspects of my life. She wanted a mini version of her to control because she was very unhappy with her life. Your mom might be the same, crab mentality.
Avoid the topic of relationships as best you can. If it comes up, grey-rock to oblivion (completely detach yourself from the situation) and put it back on her. “Gee Mom, it’s a shame you feel that way, I hope you can find happiness with what you have now”. Or just every time she vents just be like “oh no! that sucks. anyway…” and change subject. And don’t be afraid to leave when the topic comes up and she gets pushy, leave the entire event even. It will communicate to them that they’ve crossed a boundary.