‘Dark humor’ and ‘not taking things too seriously’ on OLD profiles.

Agreed, so very much!! I’ve said it before, but the “I don’t take things too seriously, I like to have fun!” guys are those who have no emotional maturity, who will stonewall you when you “get too serious”, and who prefer hours of daily video games and Doritos to date nights and fine dining. Spot on with the “I have a dark sense of humor, demons inside me” jerks. Those are the ones who will openly mistreat you, who exhibit all the narcissistic traits in the book, and who won’t take you into consideration unless it directly and quickly benefits them. They’ve told you they’re mean and will mistreat you, you aren’t special! I’m on a dating hiatus after my last shituationship…even if they don’t exhibit “dark humor”, those seem to be the only dudes I attract in my 30s. FDS (and online therapy) has helped immensely spot the glaringly obvious red flags they waved before I’d get attached…and also, don’t get attached so early! But I will forever avoid dark humor and immature man-babies from now on instead of “giving them a chance to show me their good side” (vomit)!

I totally agree. Another one that I just swipe over is "I speak fluent sarcasm", "I don't have any baggage", "I don't put up with drama" or something to that effect. Yeah, sure you don't. I could respond to you, but that makes for a typical "shituationship" ^^ (Props to LevelUpMel for this one- I had to borrow it- it's too perfect!) and I'm not dating anymore closet---> full blown misogynists.

I've gotten a LOT pickier than I was even 3 months ago, and yes, I may be spending a lot of nights at home- but at least I'm not being treated like a piece of yesterday's trash at home, or constantly defending myself or facts in some discussion on a date with a narcissist/sociopath/passive-aggressive/BPD. Ugh. 🤮

I don't know if it's just me- but it seems that when football 🏈 season started, the available pool of HVM has dwindled to nothing (not that it was insanely large during the summer, but still...) - I have to keep reminding myself to not even bother with a AVM, since they seem to be in disguise as an eventual LVM.

Am I lonely? Sometimes, yes- but... it beats the alternative. And, it helps that a lot of things are still locked down here. Thanks to all the Queens here who are always encouraging me!

Anyone who says they have 'dark humor' just means that they don't know how to tell a joke, so they have to rely on shock value and pity laughs... Also they will need to be praised for being eDgY. Maybe not full blown narcissists but they def want to be the center of attention.

"Ask me anything" or, "if you want to know, just ask!" Really grates my gears too. I swipe automatically no. Those both tell me you're not willing to hold a conversation so why would I waste my time?

I mean, some people do genuinely have a dark sense of humour.

A good test is to ask what some of their favourite films/books/tv shows are. For example I love the British film "Death at a Funeral" which is a "black comedy".

If they don't provide any clear examples of dark humourous masterpieces then it just translates as "I want to neg you constantly and pass it off as a joke"

I thought I was the only one who thought this way on all these profile sayings. When I queried it I was told: I'm too sensitive. LOL I don't date anymore and it's liberating, I'm seriously in better health since going on strike

Excellent tip!

Thank you for clarifying! You really gave me some more incite on these.