Compilation of responses to walk/coffee dates

I actually found a lot of success in saying "Sure, we can grab a coffee on the way to the actual date" because it's kind of a neg, lol. SOME guys will double down and pretend they didn't hear the second part, but a lot of guys will have an oh shit moment and correct themselves.

Stop telling them what they're doing wrong. These type of posts aren't helpful, I'm fact they're telling the scrotes what they are doing wrong.

The proper response to being asked to a coffee date is NO response ie block and delete. If he asks you in person, simply say "no thanks". Don't elaborate, don't explain, don't get snarky or be petty.

Asking for a coffee date already shows us that he isn't dating seriously, that he's lowballing, and cheap. So him asking already shoes his true cheap self.

Reminder this site is to give maximum benefit to other women: we want the scrotes to stay clueless about why they were rejected /ghosted so it's easier for other women to see that he's a scrote. Otherwise he will learn to play the role of a HVM just for the mask to slip

It's pure disrespect. If he's even suggesting this, it should be an automatic block and delete. No need to give him hints about what he did wrong so he can use it against any other woman. No need to memorize lists or give him more time or attention. Block and delete.

As suggested by another user here, to her brilliance and my personal fav: I understand it’s common to ask women out of coffee/ walk dates, but I am used to better places (r more accustomed to better places). If OLD I also say let’s video call and see if there is mutual interest. If there is I will let you take it from there.

I’ve had mostly positive success: some guys are really impressed and reacted very positively. One tried to laugh at my standards, so I removed the opportunity to date me. I have a small sample size because dating is not a priority. I love the community here at FDS because we stick to our standards, but unfortunately walk dates are common so it’s not personal to be asked for a walk date imo.

Honestly you’re right, I probably would just unmatch or block at this point. I used to “argue” with men about why discussing sex before meeting was inappropriate and I have a feeling that discussing why coffee is a terrible first date idea would go over just as well.

A guy asked me for coffee and a walk (I’m currently on vacation) and he lives in the town near me which isn’t far. My male friend told me that a respectful man in our culture will only ask for coffee first to see as an introduction and not dinner as he considers dinner a little more intimate and mentioned that if he and the woman clicked he then invites her to dinner and takes care of everything moving forward. I disagreed … I told him if a man wants to impress a woman he takes out for dinner. He said it’s too formal for a first casual outing when they don’t know each other or even know if they are compatible.

Part of me wanted to go to prove my friend wrong 🤣 especially that this dude is from our culture 🥱🤔

But I stuck to my FDS vetting and declined the offer. He literally said “we can go for a coffee and a walk. It will be just a causal friendly thing to see if we are compatible or we can continue chatting on the app if I’m not comfortable meeting.” I said will get back to you as I have to check my schedule then unmatched. 🙄

We should have more of those types of threads with the most common points along the dating journey that are kind of copy paste for all of us.

Responses and questions about whether they cook? Porn? Misogynistic tendencies? I love the witty responses from the forums here.

I've also tried to play around with AI and instructed it to act as certain personas from a variety of series that have really really good catchphrases but AI mostly doesn't want to offend men at the detriment of women.

"no, thank you" and then i never talk to him again.

i don't think it's good to give another chance to a man who already is showing how LV he is. he doesn't invite you to a real date the first time? NEXT!

I love this post and everyone's responses. I will play devil's advocate for a second and say it might be a cultural thing too, so it depends where you're from. In my country it's now the norm to go for coffee dates, or worse - 'go for a beer'. Yuck. Normally I respond like this: 'coffee? really? I was hoping we could do something more interesting' - this will give the man the time to correct himself. If he is a HVM he will immediately propose something else and will also know right away that kind of shit doesn't work on you. I used this for my last 2 guys I went to dates with and they both took me somewhere nice/booked the table etc. I would say even if he corrects himself he is on thin ice though, and you can look at other signs: does he pull the chair for you? does he refill your drink? does he order a lot of things like appetizers because he doesn't care about the bill and wants to show you he is that kind of man? In the future I will be doing the videocall dates like it has been suggested many times on this forum so there will no be no excuse for taking me out for a coffee then. If he does, I think it will be an automatic no and then ghost/unmatch.

I think the correct response, in practice, is to not reply - but this list is good for our entertainment and enjoyment! Who doesn't love a witty snap back?

I had a man who asked me for a coffee/ walk date and while I knew I would not go out with him as we all know these men know what they are doing ! Lowering your standards and trying to get away with bare minimum he told me he would ask for dinner dates to women who are likely say no to him in 1st place to impress them ! There you have it ! The reality I was so disgusted 😱🤯🤯🤬🤬🤯 felt a bit sad but we all should know they know they are supposed to take women on a proper Dinner date ! Now I just block and delete when I get asked for coffee date no need to change their mind and show them with quirky replies coz they already know that ! Even if he replies with he can plan a dinner date I wudt get over the fact that he didt think it was appropriate in the first place . Ladies we don’t deserve that low effort dynamics from starting

And I love your username!