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It's a huge mindset shift when you just roll your eyes at 99% of the things men say or do.
Take last night. I was at a favourite old haunt. There were numerous musical acts. One guy comes on stage and starts singing love songs he wrote, and I'm just sitting there (not so) internally cringing because I just cannot take the vast majority of men seriously anymore when it comes to romantic (or any) relationships.
My distaste hit a peak when he stated that the next song is about the relationship between his grandparents. One of my friends looked over at me seeing my expression but I could not sum up the visceral urge to vomit because men are the instigators of their own demise and have no clue about the relationships they romanticise. Like Reaux mentioned in one of the podcast episodes, you really see this when it comes to the difference between how a man and a woman describes the relationship between their grandparents... women were notoriously treated terribly but the men will wax on about how lovely their grandfathers were.
They have no fucking clue because they're always prioritising their experience, their maximum comfort, and we're supposed to empathise with the repercussions of their actions and feelings that they barely let themselves feel except to lyricise for attention in self-absorbed ways that do not come with real growth.
I can rarely listen to male singers anymore unless it's just light music.
It's hard for me to take men seriously at all anymore. When I read books by men or hear songs written by men, I see so clearly how most of them only view women as fantasies, not as flesh-and-blood human beings. They are not writing songs about real women, but about their idea of women. And everything centers around what women look like. They are enraptured and fixated on young women, in particular. It's in movies, tv shows, everywhere. They also seem stuck in the past, in their youth, pining after an ideal image of a girl they knew as a child or teen. They don't want to grow up.
Life so often revolves around sex for them. It seems like a prison because its stunts them spiritually, creatively, and emotionally. It seems unlikely I'll ever meet a man on my level who contains the kind of substance I require. No wonder men feel so lonely, depressed, and empty. I would be too if I could not relate to half the human population and only wanted to use women for my own gratification. They seem to be missing something inside them: true empathy and depth.
I wrote a comment here a while ago about how I'm starting to find men more and more disgusting and repulsive...even in the fictional TV shows, movies and mangas where I used to gush over certain male characters, now I just get turned off by their writing due to the disrespect and red flags they show the female lead.
Now I have even less tolerance toward men especially after getting informed of their nature by Princella Clark and watching other resources that discusses males' deficient nature. And knowing what I know now makes me view them in a different light and see them for the lying shits that they are. That's why their love songs or poetries don't do it for me, words are cheap and actions speak louder than words
I notice Men are bored of me as soon as I display boundaries, I'm not too bothered because they just want a free maid and free barbera the builder. I had a dude ask If he can move in with me, rent a room so that he has enough money to finish his degree, ( He dropped out of high school) So I asked is your mother still alive? Good go and move back in with her. I aint your mommy and I wish you all the success in life but I owe you nothing.
One thing I've started noticing since finding FDS is that when men talk to women, there's nearly always an agenda. Even when they're not looking for sex from you, they're fishing for praise or they're hinting that they want you to do them a favour or they put you down (presumably to make themselves feel better).
OMGGGGG this >>>>>> I've been rolling my eyes & internally sighing at ALL men more these days. I just cannot take then seriously now
I feel this lol. Country music has been pissing me off lately. Scrotes scrotin and pickmes hoeing. Theres this song that goes like this
"Cause we got spring break '08
Down in Pensacola
Drunk and singing Breakfast at Tiffany's
Yeah, we got so high, first time
Back of your Corolla
Told me, "Baby, don't you stop kissing me, kissing me"
I know we don't have a future anymore
But damn, we got history
Everybody's got that one they can't forget
That got away, I gotta say
You were mine
But you can't try to tell me yesterday is gone
When I still go there all the time"
I thought damn there it is, men only want their ex or a brand new fuck, never their current woman. They're so addicted to novelty and being cucked literally whats the point in being faithful? I googled the singer out of curiosity to see if he's single or in a relationship. He got married less than a year ago. 🤡
I would LOVE it if his wife, also a country singer, made a song about fucking around with the pool boy while her fat husband spends 2 hours in the bathroom. A girl can dream.
I have become so repulsed by men that I’ve started dating a woman. I’ve been single for the last 2 years or so, and the dating pool of men is just despicable. Not only that, but I took a hiatus from dating, and watched my friends and their experiences with men. Pushy, ghosting, poor communication - there is a lot of pickme habits I see in them as well. But it’s been an eye opener to learn through observation and it put me off more and more.
I’m a giver in relationships and I like to spoil, and that’s always been a downfall. But with a woman it’s reciprocated. The female energy is gentle, the communication is open and and rational, the caring is genuine, and there is ROMANCE. Her sending me sweet lunches on stressful workdays, going out for dinner and walks and talking - these are things I never experienced with men, or they would pretend, for sex.
I frequented the sub going back to 2019/2020, and I’ve really learned a lot from FDS. And coming into my feminine strength thanks to you women has been life changing.
Next time make sure to projectile vomit dramatically for emphasis.
Do you mind sharing the podcast episode where Savannah mentioned that the divide between how men and women saw their grandparents' relationships? I must have missed it, but it sounds super interesting
I am going through the same thing right now. There are times when I am shocked by my own reaction, and then there are times when I'm just okay with it. I take women much more seriously now. And I definitely enjoy female-made art and culture a lot more. But it's hard to relate to the wider, 'mainstream' world, causing me to feel a bit isolated at times.