Beware of PickMe women even in groups that expose predators on dating apps

These Pickmeishas are very jealous/envious of women who have standards and confidence and tend to target them, especially if they "dare" to hold men accountable. It's gross.

WHEW! You said it! These PickMes are dangerous and they bully women for "daring" to be abused/violated and "daring" to speak out about it and hold men accountable for their actions. Recently I saw a comment in one of these groups of a PickMe lamenting how a man who kept stalking/harassing another woman in their first chat together "must be so anxious" and it must be his "anxiety" that's causing him to harass a stranger he doesn't know with dozens of messages when she doesn't respond right away. Meanwhile this dude straight up verbally abused that woman and there was no reference to what *she* experienced from that weird dude, or the anxiety *she* must have felt being demeaned and harassed by a random man she just started chatting with online. Bizarre!!

I saw one pickme commenter there arguing that MILF is a flattering compliment 🤦‍♀️

Right!! And some of these groups don't even allow men, yet they're still trying to defend scrotes as if it accomplishes anything. They definitely can get very hostile, backhanded, cruel and rude, especially to innocent women who are just trying to expose these creeps and help others. And I find PickMes tend to "flock together" and pile on those innocent women so the rational, FDS-aligned voices get drowned out. In that coffee post I mentioned, there were so many comments calling the original poster "wrong" that it felt like the only "popular" opinion was that women should settle for less. Very aggravating and weird how these groups still uphold the status quo even though its purpose is meant to dismantle it.

I definitely feel that. I have frequented some spaces that say “we are a women’s space but other genders are welcome“ or something like that. Then when men inevitably take over the space over time, and I or another woman points this out or asks if we can make this a women only space, it’s many times women who will say “but then we would be excluding trans people and other genders!” And “men’s opinions can be valuable in this space too!”

i truly feel like we are the only sane ones when it comes to some issues, but the majority of people gaslight us into silence. I know they did me. I’m not wasting much time trying to explain to pick mes how much of a disservice they are doing to themselves and other women, but i get depressed about it for sure. I want to make a meaningful change in the quality of women and future women’s lives but my efforts are met with hostility a lot of the time so I don’t bother much anymore to keep myself sane. It feels like the men get to win no matter what and I hate feeling like my voice doesn’t matter

Yes! I so wish there was an FDS version where the comments were moderated heavily. These groups are rampant with rabid PickMe raccoons ready to defend any trash man within a five mile radius. These same PickMes absolutely *hate* confident women who have standards, stand up for themselves and even though they rant/rave about how women should be "independent" (in their POV this means accepting bare minimum dates), I also find that they also dislike successful, ambitious women, and women who hold men accountable for their actions. Very ironic considering that in the states/cities these groups are in, there are likely to be plenty of outspoken and successful women who can hold their own (although I see a LOT of "outside" PickMe people commenting all the time when they don't even live in the same country as the group they're in/don't experience the same dating culture in that specific location). I am guessing because some of those same outspoken women have better things going on than centering a man and deriving their worth from other things besides relationships with men, something they can't relate to.